Easy Way to Get And Stay Slim. Mindset For Weight Loss. A. Ovechkin

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СКАЧАТЬ does it mean – “fat in mind”? It means that you doubt yourself, you do not believe in yourself, do not feed yourself regularly, scold yourself too often, dramatize any unpleasant situation, overthink every event, starve, eat all sorts of junk food when your hunger is seeking for healthy food, and so on.

      Zina adores it! She will appear in your head from time to time and say: “Come on, Snezhana, it’s impossible to eat four or six times a day and get slim! It’s nonsense! Let’s get out of it!”

      “He says you can eat meat, fish, poultry, seafood, pasta, and potatoes. No, please, do not eat pasta! Let’s get some cake after work instead! What?! He banned a cake – our only joy?”

      “Remember how we used to do before? Someone hurt you, you go home and see a bakery. You enter inside, eat one pie, another pie. Oops! No tears, no offense. You are fine again! But he wants to take away our precious! Let’s get out of it! You cannot live like this”.

      She will talk about it! Auntie Zina in your head will repeat it again and again. As for Victor, he has Uncle Joe or another subpersonality instead of Zina.

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      – Your task is to “turn off the microphone” immediately as soon as Auntie Zina starts speaking. That’s enough! You are done with her talks! You have been listening to her for years.

      – Yes!

      – I will tell you about the lifestyle of a slim person tomorrow and the day after tomorrow. When you tell me your opinion, I’ll be able to understand who’s talking to me: “OK, that’s Anna… And Auntie Zina grabs the microphone and starts to complain, berate and justify herself!”

      “I am slim” – it sounds like music for my soul!

      – How to become slim?

      To achieve your goal, you have to understand one crucial thing.

      What makes a person slim? His body or his mind?

      – His mind.

      – Of course. Have you met some people without any excess weight who keep saying that they are fat?

      – Certainly.

      – Some people are overweight, but they say: “I am fine, I am slim enough.” So, in many respects, it’s a matter of perception.

      For example, an overweight person draws a house, a tree, and a person.

      They call it projective techniques. What do psychologists try to understand, analyzing such pictures?

      – Problems.

      – Problems of the person, his character, and his mental state. An overweight person usually draws a person like this: big head, small body, sticks instead of arms, and legs. Why?

      – The body is not important to him.

      – Moreover, a body is almost absent in the picture. If we cherish and appreciate something in our life, do we pay attention to it?

      – Sure.

      – This picture demonstrates that the person doesn’t pay attention to his body. Over the years of counseling, I met many people who hate their fat bodies. They even become aggressive against their bodies.

      A person sits in front of a psychologist, crying, shaking his tummy with his hands. He says: “Look at my leg! It’s disgusting!”

      His mind lives a life of its own. It has nothing to do with the fat body as if it was not his decision to make it fat and maintain this condition. The lousy body has only itself to blame.

      – And some circumstances.

      – Yes. It just happened, the body gained four pounds again.

      As they say: “My weight has become heavier.” Of course, the body is growing bigger and bigger on its own.

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      – “What? You’ve gained another ten pounds, my lousy body? I’m done. I’ll stick the needles into you and stuff you with medicines. Gained twenty pounds? OK, I’ll take you to a surgeon, and he will cut off pieces from you!”

      – It’s no good.

      – But the head considers it to be a great solution. There is no harmony. Head and body live separately from each other. They have a relationship similar to relationship of whom?

      – Enemies.

      – Enemies or who else? Head constantly berates body, browbeats it…

      – Boss and subordinate.

      – Precisely, boss and subordinate. Besides, the head is a very sophisticated boss. Smart. Well-educated. As for the body, it’s the worst subordinate you’ve ever met. A stupid, defective person. A walking disaster.

      Then this type of relationship transforms into the relationship of… Whom? What other types of relationship between head and body can you imagine? If it’s not “Boss vs subordinate”, then… Give me more constructive versions.

      – Parents.

      – A parent and a child. Yes. Mom loves her daughter even if she is not perfect, right?

      – Yes.

      – Agree? Even when her daughter is nasty, when she is coughing, when her hair is filthy. Mom still loves her child even when she returned home too late with a broken knee and cut finger, dirty from head to toe. Mom still loves her. Right?

      – Of course.

      – Mom loves her anyway.

      Head loves its body too: “You have to lose some weight, and then I’ll take you to the beach.” Body: “I want to the beach now!”

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      – “Have you seen yourself in the mirror? At first, you have to lose at least thirty pounds. Then you can go there.” Body: “I want to the swimming pool!” Head: “All people there look like Belvedere Apollo and Aphrodite. And when you jump into the water, it will overflow over the edge! Besides, you’ll have to experience five meters of shame from the pool to the changing room and back. No. No swimming pool for you!” Body: “I want it. And I want to be loved and cherished!” Head: “What are you talking about?! Drop forty pounds, massage, fitness, cosmetology, and then you’ll get some love! Maybe.” That’s how the conversation goes.

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      – The person gets less pleasure and joy. The only source of comfort is excessive food. So, the body eats more and more!

      Meanwhile, the head keeps saying: “Genes?! Forget it.

      We’ll cut them off too.”

      That’s how it goes.

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