Fruitful hearts. Ricardo E. Facci

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СКАЧАТЬ was neither a fluke nor destiny, rather it was God that bound those hands together and placed between his weaving the story of two lives. Until that time, they were two separate stories, afterwards there are no longer two stories or two wandering rivers, but one story, the untold story of “us”. It is the story of you and also the story God as told through you. A story that no longer can live individually, each on his way, not even the two by themselves, but both and Him.

      What once seemed like a child’s game suddenly became a commitment and a reality. A new world was created, a happiness that was to be built, two lives to be transformed into one. Perhaps both dreamed of that song by the group Mocedades which said:

      Like a promise, you are, you are [to me]

      Like a summer morning.

      Like a smile, you are, you are [to me]

      That's how, that's how, you are [that's how I perceive you]

      You are like my hope, you are, you are [to me]

      Like a fresh rain in my hands

      Like a strong breeze, you are, you are [to me]

      That's how, that's how, you are [that's how I perceive you]

      You are the warmth in my home

      You are (You are something like,)

      Like the fire in my fireplace (something

      like the fire from my fireplace)

      You are (You are something like,)

      The wheat of my bread (my love,

      you are something like that).

      Like my poem, you are, you are [to me]

      Like a guitar in the night,

      you are all my horizon, you are [to me]

      That's how, that's how, you are [that's how I perceive you]

      While both lives, along with the Lord, weave marital history. He accompanies them permanently to encourage and help them grow with fullness as a unit, but they will need to ask how to grow in this unit, which is not simply not be separated, but to achieve being one unit.

      Is it still promises to build happiness? Are they summer mornings or autumn, the cold and cloudy days which have invaded them? Is there still a smile or just a bitter seriousness between the two? Is there hope or do they no longer expect anything from each other? Is there a fresh rain or a torrent of bad temper and selfishness? Is there a strong breeze supporting each other or a storm that produces loneliness? Are they a source of water or are they thirsty and looking for other “waters” from outside the couple? Is there warmth in their home or is there only cold and frigid areas? Are there still guitars of joy although there are nights of sorrow, or does love no longer sing in their lives? Are they still the horizons for each other or are they looking for new horizons?

      Marriage requires constant work. Never forget that. “That they may be one ...”.

      To discuss as a couple

      1. What marriage experiences make us that “we”?

      2. What aspects of our lives need polishing to stop belonging to the “I” or “you” and start being “we”?

      3. Discuss the questions inserted in the text.

      To pray together

      Lord Jesus,

      we want to be one

      as the reality you live with the Father.

      But we know it is not easy to

      iron out all that still does not allow

      a perfect unity.

      Your grace, Lord,

      As today,

      Continue to help us grow

      In this so beautiful relationship that we have

      Proposed: to be one.

      Join us to never separate,

      being the one for the other,

      Promise summer morning, smile, hope,

      cool rain, strong breeze, source of water, warmth,

      Guitar of joy, horizons ...

      May we always be one ...

      between us and you ...

      Amen.

      Being One

      Therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother,

       and shall cleave unto his wife:

      and they shall be one flesh (Gen 2:24).

      They had married very much in love. The wedding was beautiful. At the altar they swore love forever. Four years later they separated. What happened? They had married with the firm intention of being one... but after time found that they were “two married singles”... This is very common in many marriages at all latitudes ...

      Every day many husbands accuse the spouse of misunderstanding, incompatibility or insurmountable differences and then hire a lawyer for the separation of property, custody of children... and everyone for themselves... Now, why do marriages break up? What is the deepest root cause of separation or divorce?

      The answer is subtle, invisible but a dynamic process of disintegration that takes place inside of the couples (in the mind, heart and will). For this reason, this phenomenon, we can call separation of hearts.

      For many marriages it never crosses their mind that there’s a definitive separation. But the relationship they live is a separation of hearts, which makes their marriages not fully happy. They are not one being.

      What is the “separation of hearts?” It is a subtle phenomenon, it is a constant, progressive and growing lack of intimacy between spouses. It is a mental and emotional separation. A man and a woman living under one roof, but leading separate lives, who relate as strangers. They run parallel lines without ever joining. They are not interested one for the other, but each is immersed in his/her own world. So, a husband can “plug in” fully in their work, sports, friends; and the wife, can dip her energies on hobbies, girlfriends and children. Each does many tasks, which may even be very meritorious, but separately.

      When a couple separates, get divorced, it is something you can see and touch and nobody doubts it. But in the “separation of hearts” the act is not visible, touchable, and often goes unnoticed even to the couples themselves. Neither suspect. ATTENTION! The “separation of hearts” begins subtly. It grows and develops even among the best marriages and those who are considered perfect and safe.

      Everything individualist: the mentality, feelings, attitudes and behaviors are fertile ground for the separation of hearts. It is a real disease of marital love. Therefore, it is important to identify the symptoms of “separation of hearts.” These symptoms are shown in the sadness that surrounds the marriage, are externalized in a cold treatment, with marked absence СКАЧАТЬ