A Smart Girl's Guide: Drama, Rumors & Secrets. Nancy Holyoke

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       One minute you’re upset with your friend Ashley. The next you’re grounded for yelling at your little sister. Your brother calls you Hurricane Hannah, and in your heart of hearts you do feel sort of like a hurricane.

      Moods are hard to shake. If you’re mad, hurt, and anxious at

       school, chances are you’re going to be mad, hurt, and anxious

       when you walk in the door at home. Drama with friends can create

       drama at home, and drama at home can create drama with friends.

       Bottom line: Drama makes more drama.

       Last month, Sophia decided she didn’t like Amber and said you should stop liking Amber, too. Today Sophia said a bunch of bad stuff about Saskia. What if Sophia decides to stop liking Saskia?

      When kids create drama, other people get hurt. For some, the

       hurt is public and agonizing, but no one walks away free. In

       instances like this, a single girl can poison an entire group by

       creating an atmosphere of fear, jealousy, and shame. Friends

       who should be open and free with one another get guarded.

       There’s more plotting and planning. There’s less trust. There’s

       less truth. What you share becomes the exact opposite of what

       we all want from the word “friendship.”

       Bottom line: Drama hurts people and friendships.

       When you’re with your friends, you feel fake.

      It’s natural for a girl to try on different clothes, different ideas,

       and different ways of expressing herself. There’s a little bit of

       acting mixed up with all that, which is perfectly natural, too.

       It’s about discovering who you are and what kind of person you

       want to become. The problem is that most girls are nervous

       about what other people think. Drama expresses those fears.

       It also makes them bigger. Louder. Girls dealing with daily

       drama may end up worrying more about how they appear than how they truly are and what they truly feel. That can make a person feel hollow—and very lonely.

       Bottom line: A girl can get lost in drama.

       rewrite the script

      People may think drama is inevitable.

       Drama’s just a bunch of nonsense about nothing.

       This stuff has always gone on with kids. You can’t stop it.

       Girls love drama. They need the attention. That’s just how we are.

      But it’s not inevitable.

       Girls like you can

       rewrite the script.

       I don’t need a lot of drama. I can make different choices. I can rewrite the script.

       I know that other kids are like me. Everybody wants to fit in some- where. Everybody’s trying hard to be liked and to figure out what sort of person she wants to be.

       I have strong feelings, just like most kids. My feelings aren’t good or bad. They just are. I feel them. I’m not going to pretend I don’t. But I can control what I do with them. They don’t control me.

       I believe in doing what’s right. I’m going to make mistakes. Everybody does. But I will never stop trying to be a decent person. I’m going to grow up liking myself.

       among friends

       My friends and I fight over some pretty stupid things. It tears us apart for a while, and then we get back together. —Eva

      Drama can be a little fun to watch, I admit. But it is not fun when you are in the drama, because it can break friendships apart. —No Drama Queen

      The drama I see has to do with friends constantly changing friends. —Julia

       Middle school is really harsh. People are all in a hierarchy. It makes being friends hard. Right now, my closest friends are not acting like friends. I have other friends, in different groups, but those groups are higher or lower in the hierarchy, so it would be hard for us to hang out without somebody looking bad. It’s all so confusing. —Sofia

       Dramas tend to be based on one thing: exclusion. —Haley

       My friends get in fights a lot. They always make up, but I wish they weren’t such drama queens. —Dana

       “sit with us”

      You walk into the lunchroom and head straight toward them: your friends.

       Call them a group, but to you they’re more like a family. It’s where you

       belong. They listen when you talk. They care how you feel. You can hang

       out and be goofy together. You can share secrets. When you’re СКАЧАТЬ