Towards Friendship-Shaped Communities: A Practical Theology of Friendship. Anne-Marie Ellithorpe

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Bridging philosophy and politics, Jacques Derrida’s Politiques de l’amitié, translated into English as The Politics of Friendship, examines the political history of the idea of friendship. He identifies a basic tension between unity and difference, and advocates for taking seriously the place and voice of the other. His comprehensive contemporary analysis expresses concern about the exclusion of women from the political, along with the phallocentricity of the history of the philosophy of friendship. When, Derrida asks, “will we be ready for an experience of freedom and equality that is capable of respectfully respecting that friendship which would at last be just…?”¹¹⁷

In the early twenty-first century, friendship is increasingly being invoked academically by political theorists as a potential model to illuminate issues such as citizenship and international relations.¹¹⁸ Danielle Allen advocates for a “citizenship of political friendship”¹¹⁹ that promotes confidence rather than fear in talking to strangers and acknowledges our shared responsibility for the shape of life within our communities.¹²⁰ Sibyl Schwarzenbach suggests that incorporating values of friendship into the political, in the form of civic friendship, may contribute towards determining “the limits of legitimate freedom and equality” within the context of a genuine democracy.¹²¹ Political philosopher Astrid H.M. Nordin argues that the focus on Western experience and thought when it comes to friendship has both marginalized friendship from the discipline of international relations and limited its decolonizing potential.¹²² Nevertheless, she asserts, friendship can contribute to a rethinking and decolonizing of international relations and related disciplines.¹²³ Friendship provides an important perspective for considering political relationships both locally and globally, yet this most important relationship when it comes to politics has not been adequately explored; there is plenty of scope for more politically directed research on friendship.¹²⁴

Clearly, friendship is relevant to communities, politics, and the pursuit of the common good. Research into friendship’s potential as a public and political relationship, whether pursued by political philosophers, religion scholars, theologians, or scholar practitioners, will need to engage with the interrelationship of empire, imperialism, and colonialism. (Imperialism refers to economic and political control over a dependent country or territory, whereas colonialism is a practice of domination that typically involves part of a population moving to a new territory as settlers/pioneers, settling among Indigenous people, and establishing control over people and land).¹²⁵ While many assume we live in a postcolonial age, this is not the experience of many Indigenous peoples. Power over other peoples has been exerted through settlement and the establishment of sovereignty; power continues to be exerted through “indirect mechanisms of control.”¹²⁶ Decolonization includes various forms of resistance including deconstructing colonial ideologies, addressing imbalance within power dynamics, and valuing Indigenous knowledge. Decolonizing friendship will allow for multiple ways of relating, being, and knowing.

      Summary

      This chapter has explored various themes and questions concerning friendship and its place in contemporary communities. Friendship has been recognized as a challenging word to define, yet as typically including reciprocity in affection as well as in willing good and doing good for the other.

      Is friendship essential or peripheral to being human? Terrell argues that the human capacity to make friends is characteristic of our species; this befriending extends even to strangers. This befriending capacity is outworked within the context of varying cultural ideologies about relationships, gender, and friendship. Cultural ideologies are reproduced, reinforced, and reified through relational practices as well as through various forms of media.

      Some consider friendship to be an endangered, marginalized relationship; others consider it to be more important than ever and a source of “social glue.” It is difficult to ascertain from the variety of social surveys undertaken whether Western people are in fact acquiring more differentiated, superficial friendships, or more life-affirming, soul friendships; respondents to surveys are rarely asked what they mean by friend. Various forms of technology, for those who can afford it, have the potential to sustain and deepen friendships, but can also function as a distraction from friendship. While social media and other technologies provide strategies for the maintenance of friendships, they must be used with discernment in order that the inherent dangers of use do not outweigh the benefits of use.

Cultural norms currently take precedence within the social imagination of many Christians. Nevertheless, there are clearly ethical, theological, and spiritual dimensions to friendship. While Anders Nygren discounted friendship as an ethical relationship, friendship has variously been depicted or described as integral to the overcoming of evil, sustaining service in the pursuit of the greater good, a corrective to a potentially egotistical life, the enduring element in all loves, a model for Christian love, and a model of the moral life. Friendship has been identified as a metaphor for God and an analogy for relationship with God. Christian friendship is a gift to be shared, is iconic, and can be cultivated as a spiritual discipline. While contemporary communities have privatized friendship, faith communities reverse this trend as they rediscover the public character of friendship.

      Is friendship a private, public, or political relationship? While friendship has been regarded as a private relationship and a play form of sociability, friendship has been integral to struggles for social change and justice, and against various forms of oppression. Friendship is a goal of nonviolent resistance to oppression. While the terminology of love and friendship can and has been misused, friendship is identified as a potential model for citizenship and international relations. Friendship can contribute to decolonization; decolonizing friendship will allow for multiple ways of relating, being, and knowing. One hope for this project is that it contributes to the cultivation of friendships that will sustain such processes.

      Whether regarded as an endangered relationship or an important source of social glue, friendship plays an invaluable role within twenty-first century communities, including communities of faith. While there has never been a golden age of friendship, there is much to be gained by developing a practical theology of friendship that demonstrates the social, ethical, political, and theological importance of friendship, bringing contemporary relational concerns into dialogue with relational traditions that have been obscured by modernity, including biblical, classical, and Indigenous traditions.

      Notes

      1 1 See Eliot Deutsch, “On Creative Friendship,” in The Changing Face of Friendship, ed. Leroy S. Rouner (Notre Dame: University of Notre Dame Press, 1994), 17.

      2 2 Isidore, “Book X,” in The Etymologies of Isidore of Seville, ed. Stephen A. Barney, et al. (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2006), 213, A.4. Isidore, bishop of Seville (c. 560–636) compiled this work between c. 615 and the early 630s. Further, Isidore identifies СКАЧАТЬ