Give Birth Like a Feminist. Milli Hill

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       I read an article once about the holistic stages of childbirth that talks about the moment of pause before a baby fully arrives earthside. This quiet moment where the world stands still and they emerge into the world and I longed for that experience.

       I didn’t want anyone to rush the moment of emergence. I wanted to birth without the fear that comes with the anticipation of baby’s final arrival. I wanted to savour that moment, in between the worlds, where my baby is not yet fully outside me and yet not completely within me either. So I planned a freebirth with my last baby. Just my husband, me, and two of my dearest friends.

       And when she arrived, I had my moment. The whole world stood still. It was just me, her, my husband, and our hands as she made her way earthside. It was the most empowering moment of my life!

       But perhaps I placed too many prayers on holding the slowness of that moment. She was a little slow to start breathing normally. It was like she sat in that pause with me for too long and when she started breathing, it was shallow and fast, like she couldn’t quite catch her breath and arrive. We were nervous so we called the paramedics ‘just in case’.

       They arrived, and the two male paramedics were obnoxious and a bit freaked out, but this one woman paramedic was amazing. Before ever touching my baby, she knelt down beside me, looked me in the eye, and congratulated me before ever saying another word. She never judged me for birthing at home or birthing alone. She expressed nothing but support for my autonomy and my choices. She held the sacred with me, even if she didn’t know it.

       She encouraged me to bring her in and have her evaluated but at that point she was already breathing normally. When she found out she was my fourth baby she laughed and said, ‘Never mind, mama. You got this!’

       It was a moment of such deep healing. Of course all of the nightmare scenarios were running through my head, the fear of being judged, disempowered, having my magical moment taken from me again. And instead I was met with utter respect and trust in my knowing of my baby and my body. Somehow it healed, all the way back to that first experience of birth, and all the way forward to every moment of support I will offer another woman. Even in the midst of ‘complications’ this paramedic reminded me that we have the choice, to join mama in the sweetness and the stillness and treat her with respect, autonomy and trust.

      Every generation likes to think that they are free, and often, only the clarity of hindsight can reveal just how restricted they actually were. My mother, for example, like many women in the seventies, thought that it was the pinnacle of freedom to have her labour induced, to know what day of the week on which I would be born and make practical arrangements, and to have a kindly midwife look after her newborn while she rested. Looking back on it now, over four decades later, she can more easily see the restrictions placed on her personal freedom that were epitomised when, lost and drug-hazy, she wandered the hospital corridors looking for the baby she knew she had just birthed, but could not find anywhere.

      It would be foolish to assume that ‘that was then, this is now’ and that there is nothing happening to women in twenty-first-century maternity care that will not, when we look back on it in another forty years, seem laughable or even barbaric. In fact, you don’t necessarily need twenty–twenty hindsight – you only have to talk to women who are experiencing the current birth system to hear a myriad of restrictions, small and large, that are placed on their freedom, and a range of abuses, small and large, that are happening to them and hiding in plain sight in every maternity ward. When I listen to these stories, the same thought keeps coming back to me – birth needs a feminist revolution! But where is it? Where is feminism?

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