Sexual Performance Anxiety: 10 steps to beat it!. Larisa Pletneva
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Название: Sexual Performance Anxiety: 10 steps to beat it!
Автор: Larisa Pletneva
Издательство: Издательские решения
isbn: 9785006403505
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Unexperienced stages of psychosexual development
One of the main causes of most of the psychological sexual dysfunctions is getting stuck at one of the stages of psychosexual development or racing through them too quickly.
Be sure to study and recognize this cause!
There are three stages of psychosexual development:
Stage One: Platonic
You were then about 7 (the age may vary, give or take a year or two at most).
At this stage, you experienced/should have experienced your first crush on someone. Those were unrequited feelings, your love object could have been not only your agemate also some adult, such as a singer or actor, anyone at all.
Your experiences at this stage were a very important milestone, nature was thus preparing you for advancing to the next level of libido development and training you to build relationships with the opposite sex.
At the Platonic stage You should have realized what friendship is, that relationships can be based on deep affection without sexual context.
You learned then to understand others, listen to them, empathize, and to love without focusing on sex.
And supposed you passed this stage very quickly?
What are the perils?
The physiological aspect predominates over the emotional one in your relationship with the opposite sex.
You don’t understand why a long courtship is needed. You’re all about enjoying physical satisfaction. You don’t know how to build long-term deep relationships. You fall in love quickly and cool off before too long.
In general, early sexual activity that lacks psychoemotional context can be frustrating and turn into a powerful source of stress and neurasthenia.
Stage Two: Erotic
This stage falls within the adolescence period and spans the ages of about 10 to 15 years.
There is an emerging interest in physical intimacy (touching, kissing), erotic movies, romance literature, descriptions of dating scenes, and pornographic content.
It is the stage when You get acquainted with masturbation and petting.
The problems I most often see in my clients refer to this stage. In men, it usually passes very quickly and goes straight into the sexual one.
Women, on the contrary, usually get “stuck” there, which in adulthood can lead to sexual problems.
Parents and their attitudes play a major role in the Erotic stage be passed successfully. If they kept their girl on a leash, making her believe that sex is dirty, then the third stage – the libido one – is postponed in a girl (and sometimes in a boy) indefinitely.
And the opposite context is if you had your first sex with an older woman when you were 13—14; it means that you passed this stage like greased lightning, which results in the sexual aspect of relationship being the main thing for you and, if there is no sex, “such a relationship will be doomed to failure’. This is the point where your hyper-responsibility for having an erection arises.
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