100 Steps Towards Success. Shehzad Amin, PH.D

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СКАЧАТЬ be difficult to stand your ground, which often leads to apologizing for what you want. You might catch yourself starting with, “I’m sorry to ask, but…” and later on following up with, “If not, it’s no big deal.” Don’t. People often mistake apologizing for their wants with being polite. You can still be polite without backing down. Apologizing for your want comes across as unconfident, which can make your superior feel unconfident in granting it to you. Don’t give in! Be strong! You have nothing to apologize for.

      3 Make your gain their gain. Unfortunately, the days of helping for the sake of helping are out the window. The “what’s in it for me” attitude is a cultural norm, and you must embrace it when asking a boss or any other superior for help. It is important that the person in question views your victory as their victory. If you get what you want, how does it help them? Will it lighten their workload? Will it mean a possible promotion for them in the future? Consider what the other person must gain, and use these benefits as one of your selling points when asking for what you want. If your achievement affects their life positively, they will be more likely to help you in the future, as well.

      4 Make yourself invaluable. We all want to be irreplaceable, so make it so. If you are a true asset to your company, not only will they want to keep you around, but they will also want to keep you as happy as possible. Laurence Shatkin, Ph.D., author of 150 Jobs for a Secure Future, advises employees to be visible in the workplace, be exceptionally productive, and to simply be pleasant if you want to become invaluable to your company. Work hard, become an expert in your field, build a great reputation – do whatever it takes to make it much more trouble to replace you than it is to satisfy you. It is easier to ask for something when your past accomplishments speak for themselves.

      5 Be prepared for your wants to be fulfilled. It’s easy to wish for something, but are you truly ready for it to be bestowed upon you? The answer is you’d better be! You may have spent years daydreaming about the prestige that will come with that executive position, but don’t get caught with drool on your chin when it’s time to take the reins. When you ask someone for something, the other person is always taking a risk in giving it to you. You must prove that their decision to believe in you was the correct one. Don’t let them regret it by your fumbling or being unprepared. Know what responsibilities you will be taking on if given what you want, and accept them without missing a beat.

      6 Persistence. Unfortunately, not every want is granted right away. Don’t give in too quickly. Just because you’ve gotten one or ten (or even a hundred) no’s, it doesn’t mean you should move on. Try a new approach. If the front door is closed, try the back. Is the window open? What about the garage? Have another go at it. Lee Iacocca, the former President of Ford and Chairman of Chrysler explains, “You’ve got to say, ‘I think that if I keep working at this and want it badly enough I can have it.’ It’s called perseverance.” Keep at it.

      PART 2

       Constructive Criticism

      Those days when you look at the time and can't stand the thought of getting out of bed for work. Some days you make it out of your bed, but you don't even want to work. Oh! Yeah, it happens. This feeling can get scary because it is not a good feeling. Never a good feeling. Most of the time, you find out that you have a whole lot to do. Whatever that feeling is that keeps you away from work isn't a good feeling at all.

      Therefore, if you are in this situation, there is no doubt that you quickly need to do something about it. The bitter truth is that in as much as some people could afford to let this feeling have its way, others don't.

      Constructive criticism is about finding something good and positive to soften the blow to the real critique of what really went on. — Paula Abdul

      Deadlines need to be met; those bills need to be paid. There are a lot of factors that immensely contribute to this, “I don't want to work or go to work today” feeling. It could be an unhealthy work environment. Sometimes, you have bullies and people you can't stand at work. They could be your nasty colleagues who give you a tough time. It also could be that boss that makes things complicated and is not so respectful. Another reason could be you! Yes, you! You with your lazy attitude. You with your over-the-top rude self. You with your low self-esteem, constant negative thoughts, and proclamations. We could go on and on about the causes of this. But the bottom line lies in the fact that this is not a good thing to experience for anyone. The following session of this book will give you steps on how to push forward through the negative vibes of not feeling or wanting to go to work.

      18. Be Constructive in Your Criticism.

      No one can criticize you better than you. Because you want to always present the best, you find yourself doing all things to push out the best in you. This feeling of being a critic is normal; this is okay; this is nice. However, it becomes extreme when you are not kind to yourself. After working so much, you don't have to give yourself wicked criticism. The truth about unconstructive criticism is that it finds a way into your mind, makes you feel less than worthy, saps you of your creative juices, and then leaves you depressed and empty. You see yourself projecting a lot of negative vibes, always. Instead of being that crude, rude person to yourself, be kind to yourself. Instead of saying, “This work is useless,” say, “I have done beautifully, but I can find ways to improve my work.” Then go for it.

      Life at the end is a learning process; no one is that perfect in life. Sometimes the problem is not knowing how to give criticism. The next subtopic will cover tips that will help you give credit, primarily as a leader.

       How to Give Criticism as A Leader.

      Criticism is feared and hated by a lot of people. No one wants to receive criticism. I mean, who wants to be called by their boss and told they didn't do a job well? Accepting criticism is hard and embarrassing. However, some leaders and top managers also say that giving criticism is hard for them as well. Blame cannot be taken from any job. Criticism is also necessary for the growth of any responsibility or description.

      When you criticize the right way, it could increase the capacity and be very useful for your organization and team task. The following tips will help and give you positive results when it comes to constructive criticism as a leader.

       Keep the Word Constructive at Mind.

      When giving constructive criticism, keep the word, “constructive” highlighted in the back of your mind. Constructive criticism should be constructed. This statement means that you should plan and build what you have to say.

      Constructive criticism at work isn't all about showing meaningless power. It is about pushing your employees to maximize their fullest potential. When you combat criticism constructively, it will help to elevate the performance of the individuals, which is good for the company.

      In a nutshell, always endeavor to make your criticism clear, concise, and – most importantly, constructive.

       Keep It Private.

      Being singled out in a group isn't lovely. Nobody wants that, including you. If you're going to give criticism to an individual, there is no need to do it around other people. When you do it amongst others, you may leave the individual feeling embarrassed and depressed. Depression could further reduce the input and performance of the individual. Unless it is a team criticism, do it privately.

      Once you embarrass the individual; they may begin to develop strong resentments towards you.

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