100 Steps Towards Success. Shehzad Amin, PH.D

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       Strengths that define us. The talents and abilities we use to navigate and provide value to this world define the lives we live and the change we can offer. And by recalling our strengths in the past, we can better recognize our opportunities in the present.

       Weaknesses that frustrate us. We all have weaknesses in personality and competence. When left unaddressed, these weaknesses limit our potential for impact and significance. Discover them. Recognize them. And learn to overcome them by seeking the help of others.

       Causes that energize us. Our lives find the greatest joy when we help others discover theirs. Which social causes have energized you in the past? What role were you able to fulfill in helping others? And how can similar pursuits bring new energy into your life today?

       Relationships that inspire us. Over the course of our lives, there are, no doubt, several people who have inspired us to become better versions of ourselves. What traits do they have in common? And can you surround yourself with more people like them today?

       Environments that derail us. The company we keep and the cultures we function in either bring us inspiration or derail our progress. Are there relationships in your past that continually brought you down and resulted in destructive decisions? If so, learn from your past to avoid them.

       Habits that invigorate us. Over the course of our lives, we employ a variety of disciplines to make the most of it. We discover a new diet, a new fitness practice, or a new morning routine. We experiment with them–some work, some don’t. Eventually, these new disciplines either become habits or they fade from our memory. Look back. Recognize the habits that brought energy, health, and invigoration into your life. And embrace them again.

       Affections that bring joy to us. Various matters of our mind and affections of our heart bring different amounts of joy, meaning, and fulfillment into our lives. What affections during life brought you the most joy? And have you gotten away from them? If so, return. And in so doing, recognize what distracted you from them in the first place.

       Pursuits that distract us. Ultimately, the decisions we make with the resources we’ve been given determine the life we end up living. Most of the resources we have at our personal disposal are finite and limited (money, time, energy). The allocation of them towards one pursuit limits the amount of resources we have available towards others. It is wise to recognize the subtle pursuits that routinely distract you from the truest desires of your heart.

       Addictions that control us. We are a people that too often give control of our most precious asset to another. We fall under the influence of substances, possessions, or entertainment. And when we do, our life is no longer our own. Identify the recurring controlling substances (addictions) in your life and humbly seek the help needed to remove their influence over you.

       Temptations that trip us. Like addictions, we each have unique weaknesses to temptation. These temptations may vary in nature, but each detract from the fullest life possible. But they do not need to define us. We can begin anew. However, only those who can identify and admit their mistakes in the past have opportunity to learn from them.

       Learning styles that suit us. We all learn differently. Some are visual learners, some are verbal, some learn best in a group setting, while others learn best alone. Your learning style is as unique to you as your fingerprint. The important thing is to recognize and understand what style suits you best. This life ought to be filled with constant learning, and the sooner we recognize how we learn best, the sooner we’ll begin to grow in it.

       Motivations that compel us. Deep in our heart, our motivation runs supreme. It determines the decisions we make, the use of our time, and the words we choose to use. Understanding our deepest motivations is a difficult task. It requires stillness, patience, and consistent self-evaluation. But the more we discover why we do the things we do, the easier it is for us to make the most of the present we are living in today. If we start asking the right questions, there are countless life-giving lessons we can learn from our past. Never feel that you must be defined by it. But it would be equally foolish to forget it completely when it offers so much potential for the present.

      11. Remember Things Could be Worse.

      What's coming will come and we'll meet it when it does. — Hagrid

      Should you ever find yourself the victim of other people’s bitterness, smallness, or insecurities, remember, things could be worse—you could be them.

      Things could have been worse than they are now, and this thought alone is a solace that should help us cope with life’s most depressing moments.

      12. Think of it as an Opportunity.

      Every time things happen in your life that you cannot control, think of them as stepping stones to a better and bigger phase of your life. Often, opportunities come shrouded in the weighty matters of life. Those times when things aren’t going smoothly and well are the prime times for opportunities to manifest. An experienced entrepreneur knows the most barren of places come packed with the best of fertile opportunities.

      A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty. — Winston S. Churchill

      Opportunity. We all love that word. It is a word that inspires hope, as well as something we can wish upon to make our lives better. It is a single event that will smash into us, enlighten us, and take us away on its fluffy-feathered wings where we will live happily ever after. Unfortunately, that is not the case for most of us.

      Real opportunities are like the sales people that knock on our door or call us while we eat dinner at night. We don’t want to open the door because we are irritated, we think we know how it is going to pan out, or we are too scared to say “no” when they ask us a question. Opportunity is just as much dependent on our views and attitude about the world as it is on our external circumstances.

      When we actively change our thinking and perception toward a more opportunistic mindset, we can invite and take advantage of more opportunities in our daily lives.

      Many people are perfectly capable of discovering opportunities that greatly benefit their lives, but they unknowingly ignore these opportunities. This is because much of opportunity is based on our way of seeing things.

      Real opportunities are the ones that we don’t immediately see. They come by at the most unexpected, most inopportune, times. We are so obsessed with other distractions or our own opinions that we normally miss most opportunities that fall across our path.

      When we do see opportunities, we treat them the same way as we treat the inappropriate sales people – with disdain and a bad attitude. Our attitude when opportunity presents itself determines whether that opportunity will make our lives better. Francis Bacon said that the wise man will make more opportunities than he finds. Benjamin Franklin, in answering a question posed to him (What is the recipe for successful achievement?)— said, “There are four essential ingredients, the most important being seizing opportunities.” Bruce Lee also said, “To hell with circumstances; I create opportunities. Opportunities are a lot like self-fulfilling prophecies. Don’t let your opportunity pass because you are looking through the wrong door. Even when opportunity knocks, a man still must get up off his seat and open the door.

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