Positive Thinking: Everything you have always known about positive thinking but were afraid to put into practice. Vera Peiffer

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       Mental Holiday Exercise

      • Try this exercise immediately after the Breathing Exercise, or choose a time when you are reasonably relaxed anyway. You will have to practise Mental Holiday under non-stressful conditions before you are able to apply it in difficult situations, so perfectionists beware!

      • Find yourself a comfortable position and close your eyes.

      • Start off by remembering a suitcase or travelling bag of yours. In your mind, see it sitting on your bed, ready packed. As you are looking at the open suitcase, repeat the word ‘holiday’ to yourself. Get into the mood, hype yourself up. See the scene in your mind and feel the elation of going off to your favourite holiday spot. Money is no object, in fact, the more expensive the better.

      • You are ready to go. Close your suitcase. Now you are at the airport, station or seaport (needless to say you got there by chauffeur-driven limousine), boarding your plane, train or ship.

      • You have arrived at your holiday destination. It is superb and exactly as you would like it to be. In your mind, look at everything in detail – the mountains, sea, beach, trees, countryside, whatever you have chosen.

      See yourself moving around, enjoying the beauty of the scenery, feel that sense of elation at being in these gorgeous surroundings. Be there, get involved in your day-dream – make it a thoroughly pleasurable experience to be on this Mental Holiday.

      • When you want to get back, just gently tense all your muscles, relax them again and open your eyes – and leave that smile on your face, it suits you!

      If you have problems

       Are you finding it difficult to imagine your ideal holiday?

      Maybe you have not been using your imagination for a while and therefore you have become ‘rusty’. In order to regain the ability to imagine or fantasise, start off with an object in your environment – a plant, the telephone, a picture, anything at all. Look at the object closely, observing every little detail.

      Once you have done that, close your eyes and describe the item to yourself, recalling as many details as possible. Now open your eyes again and check whether you remembered the item accurately. The more often you practise this, the better you will become at picturing something in your mind. The fact that you can remember means that you have formed a mental picture of the item. You cannot describe anything that you cannot imagine. Improving your imagination will automatically improve your memory.

      

       Are you finding it difficult to enjoy your holiday?

      What marred your day-dream? Did you find it impossible to imagine something as entirely pleasurable, without any flaws? Perhaps you consider this exercise unrealistic and want to tell me that last time you went to Majorca you got landed in that grotty little place next to the main road where you suspect the maid must have taken your earrings because you couldn’t find them anywhere … I’m afraid you didn’t get the point of the exercise.

      We all know that life is not perfect. There will always be ups and downs and unforeseen obstacles. This is so, whether we are happy or miserable about it. We cannot do anything about unpredictable events appearing in our lives, but we can certainly influence how we cope with them.

      We have a choice of how we want to look at problems – positively or negatively. We have a choice whether to be happy or miserable. No matter what we choose, the problems will still occur, so we can either sit anxiously in a corner, waiting for the next thing to go wrong and be thoroughly unhappy with life or we can face problems as and when they appear, deal with them as best we can and have a thoroughly good time in the meanwhile. Besides, are you quite sure you didn’t leave those earrings on the beach …?

      Mental holiday is certainly an exercise in escapism, but then it is meant to be. Just like deep breathing, it gives body and mind a chance to relax and recover lost energy, and it helps you gain a bit of distance from everyday routine, leaving you refreshed and in a good mood. Mental holiday is meant to make you feel good, and only when you imagine something beautiful will you get the maximum result from this exercise.

       6 Setting Up Your Personal Success Programme

      In this life, everyone gets what they deserve, but only the successful will admit it. There is no such thing as a heavenly department for the distribution of success. Each and every one of us has to work on achieving their own happiness and their own success.

      Some people attending my workshops have been saying that they feel they are ruled by their environment, by their present financial situation, by their partner, their boss or by the type of job they are in, and they feel quite hopeless about their chances of success to change their life for the better. All the external factors seem to be so overpowering that their own endeavours appear to be doomed from the start.

      When I ask these people what they have actually done to achieve their goal, it either transpires that they have not done anything at all because they thought it was not going to work anyway, or they lost courage after the first (and often feeble) attempt and gave up, despite the fact that they did not even encounter the resistance from the outside world that they had expected.

      Change can be a frightening thing and, although your present situation may be unpleasant, it can still seem preferable to the hassles and upsets of setting foot into new territory and risking getting hurt as you are trying to deal with unfamiliar situations. It is a bit like the tooth that stops hurting as you sit in the dentist’s waiting room. Suddenly you feel it is not that bad and really you should not be wasting your dentist’s time; it probably is nothing. Or, if you have to discuss something difficult with a colleague, isn’t it amazing how you start doing all your filing and the odd jobs in the office that you normally loathe, just to avoid having to speak to that colleague?

      It is the same thing with making changes in our lives. We are afraid and try to avoid them, even though the results would be very positive for us. We like the sound of the end of the journey, but not the journey itself – God let me lose weight but don’t make it hard to do.

      Changing your life for the better means learning new things. This may not always be easy but it is certainly very gratifying and you will emerge at the end as a more confident and self-assured person. You will also find that, after a while, it becomes easier to tackle unsatisfactory situations, simply because you spend less time worrying and more time acting. You start to get up and do something about problems rather than procrastinate. Putting things off does not solve the problem, it just adds the problem of time.

      There is little point in postponing working on being happy. When you were at school you told yourself, ‘I will be happy once I have left school.’ Then you left school and you thought, ‘I will be happy once I get a job.’ When you have a job you make your happiness conditional on having a wife or husband, a house, then on the children leaving home. Before you know it you are old and have to realise that life has passed you by. Many people waste their lives waiting for ‘the’ great happiness and overlook the many smaller happy events that occur on the way.

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