Losing It. Jane Asher

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СКАЧАТЬ exactly the same. I know when I was teaching I felt utterly different from the way I used to think teachers felt when I was a girl; they looked so secure and smug and certain about everything they said or did. How I longed to be like them. They didn’t look as if they could ever feel frightened of going to the dentist, or being late with giving work in or wearing the wrong thing. All the things I was so scared of. I could see it would all be fine once I was past the age of twenty or so.

      Now I know you feel exactly the same, of course, but you pretend that you don’t. So why should I go round looking like a mature woman of sixty-something when I feel the same as I did at fourteen? There has to be a happy compromise, surely. I know I can’t go round in a short, tight skirt and strappy top like Sally does, for heaven’s sake, but there has to be something in between that and these sensible suits I seem to have crept into wearing. And there must be a way of doing my hair and make-up that’s a bit more – well, a bit prettier. My figure’s not too bad, and although my hair’s thinner than it was, it’s still –

      Oh, for God’s sake – listen to me! I sound like something off the pages of a women’s magazine. Is this it? Am I going through a mid-life crisis, just when I thought I was skimming over the surface of the menopause so successfully? A confident, modern, professional woman, that’s what I am – how bizarre to find myself worrying about all this stuff, like a teenager. I haven’t got time for all this.

      I wish I hadn’t gone off sex. Not just for all the obvious reasons – that I enjoyed it and it kept Charlie and me close and made me feel wanted and all that – but also because it spoils so many other things. I was Christmas shopping today, for example, in Oxford Street, and it struck me how many aspects of life are geared to the business of physical attraction. When I buy clothes and the odd bit of make-up now it’s just like stocking up on anything else, and I know it’s since sex has gone out of it that it’s stopped being fun. Well, it was – terrific fun, to sit in front of the mirror and dress and paint my body to make it attractive. Now I dress simply to look neat and tidy for its own sake, not to be actively attractive to the opposite sex. Clothes, make-up, shoes, hair and all the other nonsense become far less interesting when they don’t give you that little frisson of feeling potentially desirable – it may be unfashionable to admit to thinking that, but I do.

      Charlie has never minded that I’m less proactive in our love-making – it’s not as if I can’t get any pleasure out of it. I can – it’s just that if I were honest I’d probably rather be reading a good book. I miss so much that wonderfully desperate need that I had in my youth: it was so energising and animal to be dominated by my physical urges. Probably the only time in my life I’ve really enjoyed being out of control.

      I remember how Charlie used to stay at my parents’ house when we were going out together. We lived in one of those tall Victorian houses in Highgate, and he’d just got himself attached to chambers as a junior of some sort. He had rooms, of course, but half the time he’d come and live with us. For my mother’s food, he used to say, and she’d beam with pride and my father would shake his head in mock despair and mutter about being eaten out of house and home. They loved it really, not having had a boy of their own, and it suited Charlie and me very well to have him treated as a surrogate son. Made him my surrogate brother, I suppose, but – my God, he certainly didn’t treat me as any self-respecting brother would. It wasn’t the food he was hungry for in those days – and he wasn’t the only one who was starving either.

      We had a very simple system. His bedroom was on the top floor, in what would have been the servants’ rooms when the house was first built, I suppose, and my room was on the floor below, just above where my parents slept. There was no bathroom at the very top and Charlie used to have to come down to use the one next to my bedroom. It would have been far too risky to creep into my room, so he used to leave a little note or drawing in the bathroom when he felt like a bit of hanky-panky, as my father would have put it. The notes were never rude, naturally: in fact they were devised to be as innocuous as possible and if discovered would simply have looked like scraps of paper dropped accidentally and inscribed with odd jottings about law books or train times. But when I went to brush my teeth the sight of one of those bits of paper would set me on fire and I’d be up those stairs in a flash – or, at least, in as near to a flash as I could manage while avoiding the creakier stair treads. It wasn’t only one way, either – there were many times I’d make sure I got to the bathroom first, and left notes of my own, signalling my impending visits.

      The habit continued as a silly part of our foreplay for several years after we got married. A note inscribed with something like ‘Gaston’s Matrimonial Property Law Book IV’ or ‘6.40 Waterloo to Haslemere’ left on my pillow would send me into smug swoons of delight and straight into his arms. What fun I had choosing nighties or underwear that I knew he would enjoy, dressing myself up like a present for him to unwrap slowly in the soft light of our bedroom. How I miss it.

      

      Ben shut himself in his room after school today, and when I knocked he said not to come in because he was working. That’s not like him – I hope he’s OK. I always used to think he was the tough one when they were little, but – it’s funny – he’s grown up to be the one I worry about the most. I just wish he didn’t have to pretend to be all right, all the time – I’m sure it’s the mixture of trying to look cool and in charge with being so unsure underneath that’s getting to him. I’ve never felt that with Sally. Maybe Holly can talk to him about it – perhaps I’ll ask her.

      I hate it though. Having to give my little boy over to the care of another woman when it really counts. It’s not the empty-nest syndrome they should warn us all about – it’s the empty heart. Sounds ridiculously soppy but it’s true: it’s so hard to have Ben still here in his physical presence, but gone from me in so many other ways. I felt like screaming outside his door today: ‘Don’t you realise I wiped your bottom and fed you at the breast and washed your snot and vomit and tears off the shoulders of all my clothes for years? I was the centre of your universe, the most perfect, necessary being; now I’m an embarrassment.’ But of course I just said, ‘Oh, OK, darling’ or something feeble like that and went back downstairs.

       Crystal

      Dear Stacey,

      Hiya! Guess what!!! I finally gotta date!! So I’ll be going on to the other side soon after you read this – or maybe I’m even there already. I guess your British post takes forever, huh?

      Anyway, pray for me, Stacey. I know you will, and I know the Lord is gonna take good care of me and I’ve got the cute little teddy you sent and he’s gonna go in there right alongside me and I’ve got my angels praying for me too, so it’s like – hey! – it’s all gonna be just cool. No – I am NOT gonna send you a picture – you’ll just have to wait until after, when I’m thin and gorgeous (and pigs will fly, huh?)

      You remember I’d seen my PCP beginning September? Ooops, sorry, I forget you don’t call them that over there – you’d say your general doctor, I think. Is that right?? Anyway – you know what I mean. And – whaddaya know?? – I got a referral. So I saw the WLS guy early October – hey, maybe I told you all this, but I’m just so excited!! – look, here’s one of my real smiley faces to show you how happy I am – cute, or what, huh???? Anyways, I had real high BP so I had to have medication for that and then a pap smear and all kinds of stuff, and he told me to come back in a month, so I did and he was real pleased with me and said my BP was down and now I’VE GOT A DATE FOR THE OTHER SIDE!

      I got my approval from the insurance real easy, too. Some people have all kinds of trouble, but when they heard my weight and my history and I told them who my surgeon was they were real sweet and I got approval right there and then over the phone. I feel СКАЧАТЬ