Cognitive Behaviour Therapy. Avy Joseph

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1 Understanding CBT for Goal Achievement

       ‘People are not disturbed by events but by the view they hold about them.’

       Epictetus, Stoic philosopher c. AD 75

This chapter will introduce you to some of the basic ideas and principles of Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) and how you can use it to help you achieve your goals. First, though, what does Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) actually mean?

      Cognitive simply means our ‘thinking processes’: how we think, how we acquire information and knowledge, how we store it in our head, how we evaluate it and how we base some of our decisions on it.

      Behaviour means our action or reaction to something. It's the doing bit. Our behaviour can be conscious or unconscious (out of our conscious awareness). In CBT, the word ‘behaviour’ comes from a branch of psychology called ‘behaviourism’, which is concerned with what can be observed rather than what can be speculated or assumed. It is based on what you have learned and become accustomed to, how this affects your actions and feelings, and how you can unlearn what you have learned in order to change.

Therapy means the treatment for a health problem, after a diagnosis or an assessment has been made.

      CBT is one of the counselling therapies that examines how our thinking, attitudes, beliefs, opinions and behaviour are formed, how they affect our success, our lives and feelings, and how changing them impacts on our performance. The ideas stem from both ancient and modern thinking in philosophy, science, psychology, common sense and humanity.

      Here are some of basic principles central to CBT. Many may be shared by other therapeutic approaches but the combination of these principles goes some way towards understanding CBT.

THE EMOTIONAL RESPONSIBILITY PRINCIPLE

       ‘People are not disturbed by events but by the view they hold about them.’

      This principle is at the heart of nearly all emotional and behavioural change. It can be challenging because you may believe that it's what has happened to you that ‘makes’ you feel how you feel and do what you do in the here and now.

      I hope that by questioning this you will learn that what you believe may be stopping you from empowering yourself to move forward with your life. This in turn may help you in the pursuit of your desired goals.

       Is it true that events, situations or people make us feel what we feel?

      First, let's look at the popular notion that your feelings are ‘caused’ by events, situations or other people.

      Think of a past event that you think ‘made’ you feel and do something. By this logic the only way you can change your feelings now is to wish the event had not happened in the first place.

      Maybe you think there's someone else who has ‘made’ you feel and act in a certain manner. In which case, the only way you can change your feelings now is to get that person from the past to undo what they did or said. And if that person is now deceased, how can this be done?

      Believing that the past, or a particular situation or person, causes our feelings today, means that no one would ever be able to move forward or to change. We would all be totally stuck without any possibility or hope of ever changing anything. We would be slaves to the things that had happened to us or the people we had been involved with.

      Can you imagine what it would be like if everyone felt hurt every time they experienced a rejection of some sort?

       Rejection = Hurt

       10 people rejected = 10 people feeling hurt

       100 people rejected = 100 people feeling hurt

       1000 people rejected = 1000 people feeling hurt

As an example, when you experience rejection you might feel hurt. However, if you believe that your feelings are caused by others, you may then believe that being rejected by someone is the cause of your hurt feelings. But don't some of us experience different emotions if rejected by someone we like? Maybe anger, sadness, depression or relief?

      In fact, different people may feel different emotions when they experience the same event:

      Why do different people feel different things and what is at the heart of their feelings?

       Is it true that events or people make us do what we do?

      Let's think about what we do and assume that situations or people make us behave as we do.

       A colleague criticizes you = You start avoiding them

      If it is true that a colleague's criticism ‘made’ you avoid them, this means that every criticism made by your colleague would have the same effect on everyone. It means that avoidance is the only possibility whenever your colleague criticizes you, or anyone else for that matter.

       A colleague criticizes 10 people = 10 people avoid them

       A colleague criticizes 100 people = 100 people avoid them

       A colleague criticizes 1000 СКАЧАТЬ