Stress Management: The only introduction you’ll ever need. Vera Peiffer

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СКАЧАТЬ THE AMBITIOUS TYPE (A-TYPE)

      A-type personalities tend to be hard-driven and aggressive, channelling all their energies into their work. A-types have little or no time for a social life or hobbies; they live, think and dream ‘work’. They have problems delegating and are highly critical of themselves and others, often becoming impatient and angry when things do not run smoothly. They find it impossible to sit down quietly and do nothing; they are constantly moving, jiggling their knees and tapping their fingers – in times of stress they tend to do several things at the same time. They also find it hard to concentrate fully on conversations because they are already racing ahead in their mind, thinking about the next thing they want to do.

      The A-type personality is the stress category that has been most widely studied. This type is found not just in high-level jobs, but all the way through the various strata of society.

       STRESS PROBLEMS

      In their efforts to control everything and everyone around them, A-types exert themselves physically and mentally. They are unable to recognize when they have reached their limit and will typically suffer from high blood-pressure. A-types are prone to coronary heart disease, ulcers and atherosclerosis (hardening of the arteries).

      All stress-prone types of personality are driven by one thing: fear. The anxious person is afraid to be unpopular and to be considered unhelpful; the perfectionist is afraid of being ‘only human’; the stimulus-seeker is afraid of boredom; and the A-type is afraid of not being seen to achieve. Even though certain personality traits can predispose a person to have these fears, one’s upbringing also plays a part. Below we look at some of the factors that can lead to a personality type that is vulnerable to stress.

       PRESSURE TO SUCCEED

      When children are pressurized by parents and teachers constantly to achieve the very best results, and if love and approval are dependent on high performance, some children will internalize these conditions and later live their lives accordingly. Self-worth becomes totally dependent on achievements. Without achievements, they feel that they are nobody and that nobody will respect them. Within these rules there is no room for grey areas; there is only black and white.

       CRITICISM

      When criticized frequently and in an unconstructive manner, some children will withdraw, hoping to avoid further humiliation by keeping a low profile. They stop trying out new things, become anxious and unconfident in their own abilities and grow up to live their lives trying to please others and gain their approval in an attempt to maintain their own self-esteem.

       LONELINESS

      When children are shown little or no affection or interest they can grow up without self-worth or confidence in their own validity as human beings. As a consequence, their entry into the adult world of work can constitute an escape from these feelings of worthlessness. In their attempt to justify their existence, they may dedicate themselves over-zealously to their work.

       OVERPROTECTION

      Parents who do everything for their children prevent them from becoming independent and from having the opportunity to test their strength against the everyday world. This restrictive upbringing can lead to resentment and rebellion, coupled with great fear at what there is ‘out there’. As overprotected children grow up they keep on struggling with the same issues – not wanting to be controlled but at the same time fearing the freedom of being an independent person.

      Now that we have looked at the personality types most affected negatively by stress, and some of the factors leading to becoming one of these types, it is time for you to judge for yourself whether you are in fact more prone to stress than most.

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       QUESTIONNAIRE: CHECK YOUR PERSONALITY STRESS FACTORS

      This questionnaire is made up of four categories of questions, grouped together according to the stress types we looked at in the previous chapter. Make a note of each statement that is true for you, giving yourself 1 point for each. Try to do this quickly, without pondering over individual statements for too long.

       WHAT ANXIOUS PEOPLE SAY ABOUT THEMSELVES

       Others take advantage of me but I feel unable to stop them.

       I am very upset by rows, even if they are between other people.

       I prefer the devil I know rather than change to something new, even if it could be better for me.

       I find it difficult to express my needs to others because I feel this might be selfish and self-indulgent.

       Even if the other person has made a mistake, it is me who ends up apologizing.

       WHAT STIMULUS-SEEKERS SAY ABOUT THEMSELVES

       I get bored easily.

       The only way you can further yourself is by taking risks.

       I find it difficult to see a task through to the end.

       I cannot be bothered with fiddly details.

       I could never fit into an environment that required me to do routine work.

       I do not like to be tied down in a steady relationship.

       My business ventures take precedence over any private matters.

       I am always thinking up new projects and ventures.

       WHAT AMBITIOUS (A-TYPE) PEOPLE SAY ABOUT THEMSELVES

       I am totally dedicated to any task I undertake.

       I will always make sure I complete anything I start.

       I can focus on my work to the total exclusion of other things.

       I often forget to eat because I am so engrossed in my work.

       I am only happy when I have a full diary.

       I do not have time for a social life unless it is in connection with my work.

       I can never really switch off from work.

       I find it very difficult to take the initiative, either socially or professionally.

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