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СКАЧАТЬ for a long time, burnout may occur. Conversely, when the arousal level is too low (little or no stress), a person may experience boredom and lack of energy. It is likely to “stagnate,” if there is no stimulation for a long period.

      Therefore, a certain degree of stress is necessary to remain healthy, to be creative, and to feel satisfied. The aim, therefore, is not always to reduce but to effectively manage stress. Indeed, many times it is necessary to increase the degree of stress in our lives … so that we don’t feel as stressed! We will therefore discuss the conscious and effective adjustment (increase or decrease) of stress. In other words, “Hurray for stress!” – as long as we know how to adjust it at will.

      You never will be the person you can be if pressure, tension and discipline are taken out of your life. – James Bilkey

      There are many ways to manage stress, and awareness of these techniques and strategies helps regulate the three ever important variables: the frequency, the intensity, and the duration of our responses to stimuli. However, this will be the subject of discussion in a later chapter on problem solving and the effective regulation of stress. Let us first examine the sources of stress.

      Chapter 2: Sources of stress

      Contemporary stress: you have a list of 15 phone numbers to reach your family of three! – Anonymous

      WHAT IS the primary cause of stress in your everyday life? What do you see yourself doing daily that you do not like? What is the problem? Your finances, other people, your relationships, your kids, your work and your boss, traffic, pollution, your health, the dessert in the fridge that is, without a doubt, going to end up in your tummy?

      Exercise: What stresses me out

      Recall and record a recent stressful experience:

      Alternatively, complete the following sentences:

      I get bored when …

      I am tired of …

      I get irritated by …

      I can’t stand …

      When I set this exercise, the most common answers by participants include the following:

      – my relationships with others (their opinion of me, their lack of understanding and communication, their inconsistencies, their rudeness, the fact that I constantly need to nag them)

      – my partner (e.g., when they do not call, wash the dishes)

      – loneliness

      – my relationship with myself

      – failure

      – traffic jams

      – waiting

      – lack of money, time, sleep

      – office politics, job dissatisfaction

      – noise, pollution, crime.

      

      I worry when I have nothing to worry about! I know, it is rather worrying, isn’t it?

      Strangely enough, what is extremely difficult or unbelievably boring for one person can be wonderfully enjoyable for another; and vice versa. For example, think of exercise, work, and fishing. Even activities such as travelling, sex, or sleep, which are considered pleasant and enjoyable by so many, are sometimes perceived as unpleasant or unwelcome by many others.

      Modern sources of stress

      What are the most common sources of stress these days? Are they different from the “Good old days?”

      Consider the following:

      – If the last 50,000 years of our existence were divided into lifetimes of approximately 62 years each, there have been about 800 such lifetimes. Of these 800, fully 650 were spent in caves. Only during the last seventy lifetimes has it been possible to communicate effectively from one lifetime to another – as writing made it possible to do. Only during the last six lifetimes did masses of men ever see a printed word. Only during the last four has it been possible to measure time with any precision. Only in the last two has anyone anywhere used an electric motor. And the overwhelming majority of all the material goods we use in daily life today have been developed within the present, the 800th lifetime.15

      – In the last-but-one lifetime, the fastest mode of transport was the horse. The changes that have occurred over the last lifetime are dramatic. Today we are able to comfortably travel 10,000 kilometres in a single day!

      – Every day we receive around several thousand times more stimuli than a hundred years ago and, as if that weren’t enough, existing knowledge doubles (in certain scientific fields) every five years.

      – A hundred years ago, deaths from cancer or heart disease were almost unknown (mainly because people died earlier of other diseases, before they reach the age where cancer and heart disease developed). Today, half the fatalities associated with the 10 most serious causes of death are due, largely, to behavioural habits.

      – According to a comparison of self-reported stress in three different time periods (1983, 2006, and 2009), levels of stress increased a little during the 2008-9 economic downturn, but increased more for certain groups, such as younger adults and those with low socioeconomic status (Cohen & Janicki-Deverts, 2012).

      An American journalist once asked Hans Selye if, given the dramatic increase of stress levels, parents and teachers should teach us how to cope with it more effectively. Selye questioned the assumption about the elevation in stress levels and suggested that every stage of life has its own problems. A century ago we may not have had the threat of a nuclear war, but there was cholera and the plague, that wiped out entire towns and villages. Every age has its own uncertainty, as is the case during the lifetime of an individual: you may be healthy today and ill tomorrow; rich one day and poor the next.

      A TAXONOMY

      Several approaches have been used to categorize the sources of stress.16 Among others, these include categories according to the type of the problem that creates stress, the characteristics of the situation, time, internal or external factors, etc. As one would expect, these categories often have several common elements. Let us explore some of these in more detail. We will discuss:

      A. Dilemma, pressure, frustration, and change (daily stressors and important life events)

      B. Loss, guilt, entrapment, boredom

      C. Sources of stress at work, and

      D. Internal and external stressors.

      See if you can identify your sources of stress and examine how they fit into the “boxes” suggested by the experts.

      A. Dilemma, pressure, frustration, and change

      According to a first distinction, sources of stress may fall into one of the above categories.

      The first category is Dilemmas.

      Conflicts of needs, decision-making, and having to choose between alternative СКАЧАТЬ