Idiots are invincible. Dr Ro
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Название: Idiots are invincible
Автор: Dr Ro
Издательство: Eksmo Digital
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Let us now move on to Part Two and stress coping strategies.
PART II: COPING WITH STRESS
There must be quite a few things that a hot bath won't cure, but I don't know many of them. – Sylvia Plath
I FIRMLY believe we have a far greater ability to control our mood and emotions than we think. If this is true and some of us live in stress, then perhaps we are suffering unnecessarily, simply because we are not taking the time to develop our knowledge and coping skills. In this part, we will do exactly that.
Before we move onto every day practical applications for dealing with stress, which is what Part III is all about, I think it is important for us to agree on certain basic points, such as what determines how we feel, and what can we do about it.
Chapter 5: How are you feeling?
If you wish to improve your mood, pay attention to two basic factors: a) the chemicals that run in your body and b) the thoughts that run in your mind.28
YOU MAY well have problems to deal with. You may also believe that your problems are more serious than the rest of us, which may be very true!
Unfortunately – or perhaps fortunately – most of us fight minor or “imaginary” problems on a daily basis. The truth is, some of our fellow humans, including those suffering from difficult or incurable diseases (e.g., cancer, Alzheimer’s, multiple sclerosis) or dealing with serious physical disability or mental disorders, and the people who care for them, face immense challenges that demand constant adjustment. By comparison, I assure you, our own everyday problems pale into insignificance and appear quite unimportant.
Most people, including you I imagine, believe that their mood depends on their problems and that while these problems remain unresolved, they will continue to feel accordingly. If this is true, then a significant number of people, such as those suffering from serious health problems, are condemned to a chronic and unpleasant state. This is the theory. Because, in practice, it seems that the ability of humans to adapt – even in the most difficult situations – is unsurpassable.
For example, people who have lost limbs report similar levels of happiness as their able-bodied counterparts. Surprisingly enough, on the other hand of the continuum, six months after winning the Lottery, the lucky winners stated that they were as happy as they were before they won the money.
Apparently, we not only get used to negative events that affect our everyday conditions, but we also lose the initial excitement that those new material possessions or accomplishments generated. Our new car does not smell the way it did when we first sat behind the wheel in the dealer’s store. We now need two new pairs of shoes, a new Gucci bag, or a new partner. Our graduation, a promotion, a golden medal feels so good, but only for a short while. The adaptation level hypothesis, getting used to new conditions, is therefore both a blessing and a curse.
Two important factors that affect our mood
Have you ever thought about what affects how you feel? If you are interested in learning how to change your mood to feel better (you should be), pay attention.
How we feel at any given moment depends on two basic factors: our chemicals and our thoughts.
Let us examine each one in more detail.
A. OUR CHEMICALS
The biochemical makeup and the physiology of our bodies (chemicals such as hormones, neurotransmitters and trace elements that circulate inside our brain and body), directly affect the way we feel at any given moment. Our thoughts, memories, feelings, mood, and a whole series of important processes – our entire existence one could say – store up in the brain, that peculiar organ located inside our skull.29 We are nothing but one-and-a-half kilos of grey matter surrounded by an electrochemical solution!
How can we feel good without the necessary chemical balance in our brain and body? How can we feel good when we are not rested or have not slept well; when we are weakened by the lack or the poor quality of the necessary fuel, glycogen in the blood, water, oxygen, nutrients, or vitamins?
The reasonable next question to ask, of course, is …
Can I control my chemicals?
We have significant control over the chemicals circulating around the avenues and alleyways of our brain and body. We can, for example, eat or drink something, change our breathing, our posture, and our movements and – as if by miracle – formulate our body’s chemistry to produce the desired psychosomatic condition.
If, at this moment, you are not feeling particularly good, it may be due to the fuel with which you have stoked your engine – not just a few hours ago, but over the past several weeks or months. Hence, our current mood may be affected by what we have eaten lately. (Some scientists even suggest that you do not catch a cold you actually eat a cold.)
Any biochemical changes in hormones and neurotransmitters affect our emotions, our behaviour, and our health overall. Hence, our “chemicals” are quite important.
Good to see you pay attention to your diet.
At this point, we should also mention rest, which is extremely important for recuperating physical and mental strength. Some days the best move someone can make is to go home early to rest and enjoy some valuable, good quality sleep.
If you want to feel better immediately, take the first step in the right direction by making changes to your physiology. How are you sitting right now? Check your posture. Are you slouched in the armchair or are you sitting on a chair with a straight back? Sit straight on your seat and stretch your arms up.
To relieve some of the pressure of the day, change your breathing. Take 10 deep diaphragmatic breaths every hour. Breathe in for four counts, exhale slowly, hold your breath for two counts, and inhale again. Repeat this process as many times as you like. I recommend 10 deep breaths in the morning with a glass of water, 10 at lunchtime, and 10 in the evening before you go to bed. If people around you are wondering, tell them that you are following doctor’s orders!
The first factor that determines how we feel at any given moment is our body’s biochemistry. It is the most powerful means we have to change our mood in any situation. It works immediately and successfully.
Why do people take drugs, smoke, drink coffee, drink alcohol, or eat too much? To alter their physiology and change their mood. However, you do not have to go to these lengths. You can change the way you feel instantly, by changing your posture, your breathing, your diet. You can even change the way you feel just by some form of physical activity, or by just cuddling someone else.
Are we allowed to engage in intercourse?
Is sex allowed, teacher?
Of course! As СКАЧАТЬ