Uncomfortable Ideas. Bo Bennett PhD
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Название: Uncomfortable Ideas

Автор: Bo Bennett PhD

Издательство: Ingram

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      Unconscious, Group Avoidance

      Unconscious, group avoidance occurs when two or more people shelter themselves and/or others from uncomfortable ideas without realizing it. This kind of avoidance is demonstrated in the creation of social norms.

      If one were asked to provide a few examples of racists and racists acts just ten years ago, the answers would be very different then the answers given today. Ten years ago, one might say that a KKK member is an example of a racist, and stating that Japanese Americans should “go back where they came from” would be considered an act of racism. Today, one might say that Ellen DeGeneres is an example of a racist and having yourself photoshopped getting a piggyback ride from the fastest man in the world (who happens to be black), is an act of racism. This change is due to changing social norms.

      Uncomfortable Idea: Racism, sexism, and bigotry are evaluations based on social norms. America is becoming more racist, sexist, and bigoted not because of changing behavior, but because of changing social norms and perception.

      Uncomfortable Idea: Your use of the term “racism” is almost certainly inaccurate. Racism requires the belief in the superiority of one’s own race.

      When we romanticize, we make something seem better or more appealing that it actually is. Think of the dozens of movies and television shows you have seen where the protagonist is faced with a decision: to keep his high-paying job where he will be away from his family for five days each week, or quit and spend lots of time with his family. We all know the ending. He quits his job, and we see the whole family spending some quality time together as happy as can be. Did you ever ask, “then what happens?” The kids eventually have to go to school, the wife has to take care of the kids, and now the father is unemployed at home all day binge watching ‘80s sitcoms on Netflix. The father becomes a miserable bastard with an alcohol problem; his wife leaves him, and his kids never want to see him again. The end. Admittedly, my ending is unlikely, but not any more unlikely as the romanticized endings we see on film. The reality is most often somewhere in the middle. Through expressions of culture such as movies, television, books, stories, poems, religious parables, anecdotes, and aphorisms, we unconsciously and automatically accept romanticized versions of ideas as truth. Following are some other examples of romanticized ideas. As you read this list, imagine a scene playing out describing the idea. Does it make you feel all warm and fuzzy inside? Realize that how the idea makes you feel is more of a function of the value a culture puts on the idea than any inherent goodness in the idea.

      •Couples should stay together for life

      •Love is always a beautiful thing

      •Faith is good to have

      •There is a perfect someone for everyone

      •Anyone can succeed in life if they just try hard enough

      •The Constitution is a blueprint for a perfect nation

      •God is perfectly good as is all the advice in the Bible

      •People deserve what they get in life

      •Giving money to beggars is the kind and right thing to do

      Unconscious, Individual Avoidance

      Unconscious, individual avoidance occurs when a person shelters him or herself from uncomfortable ideas without even realizing it. Some examples of this kind of avoidance include common cultural presuppositions and committing logical fallacies.

      In Islamic cultures, it is presupposed that not only a god exists, but that just one god exists, and the god’s name is ALLAH, and the Koran is the word of this god. To presuppose something means to accept some idea as a fact without the need for critical examination of that idea. Some people call these presuppositions “self-evident truths,” which ironically, are only evident to those who call them “self-evident.” Often, presupposed ideas that are critically examined and found to be unworthy of acceptance could completely unravel an individual’s worldview, a society, a country, and even humanity. For this reason, cultural norms protect certain ideas by demonizing outsiders who don’t accept the idea, deem it “offensive” or “rude” to question the idea, and even make the disagreement or questioning of ideas illegal and in some cases punishable by death. In America, it is presupposed that “In God we trust,” pledging allegiance to our country is the right thing to do, and those who kill people when our government tells them to are “heroes.” The chances are, you have never given any of those ideas much thought, not because you chose not to, but because in America, these things are just a given. No critical thought required (or welcomed).

      Uncomfortable Idea: Presuppositions and “self-evident truths” are ways to avoid rational justification. We need to realize that what is self-evident to us may not be self-evident to others.