Better Parents Ask Better Questions. Lindsay Boone's Tighe

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      Whilst I accept that there is a little cynicism in these points, they aren’t too far from the truth if we are prepared to be honest. So, if this is the case then we need to recognise that if we change to being an ‘asker’ rather than a ‘teller’, this sense of self-satisfaction won’t occur in the same way because we are no longer providing an answer. Given that we are strongly motivated by doing things that make us feel good about ourselves, the possibility of changing a habit that enables us to give ourselves a pat on the back is not going to be easy to do. That said, I trust that sharing this awareness with you enables you to be prepared for letting go of this ‘ego fix’. The good news is that I guarantee that your ego will indeed still feel very satisfied from the new practice of asking Better Questions. Accordingly, at this stage please trust me that at the end of the day your ego will still be its normal, happy self, and maybe even more content than usual if you adopt an ‘asking’ approach.

      Thus, understanding how you’d like to go about performing your role and the values that you will uphold is the starting point to being a better parent who asks Better Questions. Once you have that clear in your mind, you must have the strength of your convictions to go into the world and be that person, which will include managing the expectations of self and, potentially, your kids. This will undoubtedly bring challenges along the way, but I believe that a better parent will have the resilience and resolve to work their way through these challenges. After all, wanting to tap into their kids’ potential and truly valuing empowerment are fabulous attributes of a true Potentialiser, attributes that society is crying out for.