Hockey Confidence. Isabelle Hamptonstone MSc.

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      I had heard Ryan talk about what he didn’t want when talking about his goals. He didn’t want to waste his time on the golf course, he didn’t want to miss his shot, he didn’t want to let his family down, and he didn’t want all his hard work to go to waste.

      The trouble with Ryan was that his mind had to think about what he didn’t want in order to focus on what he did want. Ryan’s mind was overworked focusing on wasting his time on the golf course, missing his shot, letting his family down, and all his hard work going to waste.

      Ryan had to discipline his mind to notice what he was doing when he spoke to himself. As psychologist Daniel Goldstein says, “I think self-discipline is something; it’s like a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it gets.”⁹

      When Ryan found the discipline to change his focus, when he became aware of the power of his own words, he enhanced his personal power. He says, “I struggled with mental focus throughout the round. I could often keep it together for sections of a round and score very well. When I would lose my focus, I often lost very good rounds or had a lot of making up to do. This season, after I have played 15 rounds or so, I must say I have been able to keep focused throughout. Through thick and thin if I hit a bad shot, I think back to our positive thinking and self-control. I get it back together quicker than ever. My mentality has never been stronger. It is amazing to feel at the top of my game all the time in all aspects of life.

      “What is also quite impressive is that I am not the only one to notice the change. Upon my return home after my stay in B.C., I have had several long-term friends as well as my family notice a big change. For starters, I returned to my home course to play with my long-term coach, Bob, to kick off the season. I played very well but didn’t realize that it was not only the score that was impressive that day! We went into Bob’s office after the round to have a chat. The biggest thing on my mind was how my game was. All he could talk about was how well I managed the course and didn’t let my typical frustrations come out in my game that day. He was amazed, and after thinking the round over, so was I!

      “I have been able to have a very successful opening to my season, I have never scored this well, and I plan on keeping it up. Every day I go to the golf course, no matter what mood I am in, I know I can go low. I cannot wait for the future! There are big things coming this summer! I am ecstatic about finally reaching my full potential.”

       Words Have Wings, so Speak Good Things

       “I AM. Two of the most powerful words, for what you put after them shapes your reality.”

       ANONYMOUS

      NOTICE WHAT YOU say to yourself.

      Instead of saying:

      •I will not miss this goal.

      •I hope I don’t mess up this shift.

      •I must not embarrass myself in front of my team.

      •I can’t let my team/coach/family/self down.

      Repeat in your mind, again and again:

      •I’m going to score now.

      •I will skate like the wind.

      •I am going to make my team/coach/family/self proud.

      You get the idea. Fan the flames of your own success and take responsibility for your progress by speaking to yourself in a way that encourages you to do better. Enjoy talking to yourself in a positive way. After all, when others say encouraging things to you, it feels good. Why not speak to yourself in the same way?

      Let’s take a look at another great way to upgrade how we can communicate with the mind and get better results.

      Have you ever decided on a goal, and then tried and tried to achieve it, but it just never turned out the way you wanted? Many of my players have, too.

      The solution to the challenge is to notice the words we are using. When we say we will try to do well in hockey, the word “try” has importance. It tells our mind to be prepared for two outcomes. When we use “try,” we are telling our mind that we are just as likely to fail at the task as we are to succeed. It’s a 50-50 mental energy split. In Star Wars, Yoda hit the nail on the head when he told Luke Skywalker, “Do or do not. There is no try.”

      Another way of putting this is an expression that I had when I grew up in Wales: “Pee or get off the pot” (that’s the polite version!). It means do it or don’t do it, but either way, get on with it! Decide to do something or decide not to do it. None of that in-between stuff is going to get you anywhere.

      List your tries. Be aware of what you say to yourself and the impact of your self-talk. Over the next seven days, write down how often you use the word “try.” For the next week, take a pen and a small piece of paper, and make a mark on the paper every time you say it, or keep a note of it on your smartphone.

      Every time you find yourself using the word “try,” find another way to declare positively what you want to achieve.

      Every time you find yourself using the word “try,” find another way to declare positively what you want to achieve. This will shift your mental energy. For example, change: “I’ll try to have a good game.” to “I’m going to have the game of my life!” If you use this technique, day by day you will begin to communicate more effectively with and train the most powerful piece of equipment you will ever use—your own mind.

      You will identify old self-defeating habits and replace them with new more powerful habits. With determination, practice, and repetition, and by taking responsibility for getting great results, come new and powerful habits. Rather than trying to have an amazing game, go ahead and be determined to have an amazing game.

       Tips

      1.Dedicate yourself daily to becoming more successful. Take one step a day toward your goals to build consistent results over time.

      2.Take the time to notice the positive changes. When you take time to notice positive change, you supercharge its momentum.

      3.Keep a written record so that you can look back and watch your progress build.

      4.Take responsibility for your progress and results. The puck stops with you. Notice and model excellence in other players who hold themselves accountable and take responsibility in spite of challenges.

      5.Decide today: Are you going to be the player who makes things happen, who watches things happen, or who asks, “What happened?”

      6.Fuel yourself with the right intentions and take action to get results.

      7.Find the fun in each day and be the driving force behind your own good mood. If you want more laughter in your life, decide to find ways to be fun to be around.

      8.Focus on developing high-quality confidence by taking responsibility to deal with challenges, to СКАЧАТЬ