Moving Fostering Memoirs 2-Book Collection. Casey Watson

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      Half of the gifts were still wrapped; she simply hadn’t enough time to work her way through the huge pile, let alone play with any of them. Not that there were any toys, as such. The packages she had managed to open struck me as inappropriate for a young girl; there was lip gloss, jewellery, even expensive clothes, but no actual toys. Where was the Lego, colouring pens or puzzles? I wondered. From her reaction it was clear that Phoebe had little interest in any of it. As soon as we got through the door she asked Jamie if he wanted to go and play in the garden again, leaving the bags in a discarded heap at the bottom of the stairs.

      It wasn’t an unusual state of affairs. Most parents overindulged their children with ‘stuff’ when they were in care and I often thought it was a way of easing their guilt. The trouble was, with such an abundance of possessions, the children had little chance of appreciating any of them. No item had special significance to them and not only that, but I had to try and find space to keep it all, which wasn’t easy, especially when several children were in placement.

      In my experience, when children were in care long-term, they learnt to expect ‘easy money’ with no concept of its true value. By their teenage years, those who had been in the system for years often ended up materialistically minded, with a deep-seated attitude of entitlement. It was hardly surprising that some children left care at the age of 18 believing that the world owed them a living.

      Besides gifts from guilt-ridden relatives, foster carers are given a weekly allowance that must be spent on clothes and toys. From my weekly allowance I was obliged to put aside £10 in savings for Phoebe. She was also given £11.50 a week pocket money to spend on whatever she liked, far more than my own children ever got. On top of that there was a clothes allowance of £22 a week, which she was allowed to spend on items of her choice. For 11–18-year-olds the allowances were even more generous.

      While children are in care, their parents’ family allowance isn’t stopped, even though the state pays hundreds of pounds a week to house the children elsewhere. So it was a shock for me to learn, when I first began fostering, that if a child returns home, the savings of £10 a week are paid to their parents as a lump sum, to spend as they see fit.

      Fearing the lump sum would be spent on alcohol and drugs, when previous placements have come to an end I have asked for permission to pay the savings in the form of supermarket vouchers, so at least the money might be spent on food for the children, but social workers have always insisted that it is the parents’ right to receive the sum as cash or cheque.

      As I lugged Phoebe’s heavy bags upstairs to her room, I pictured myself handing a cheque over to the Steadmans on Phoebe’s return to their large detached home and bristled at the thought. It wasn’t that they were clearly already wealthy, that really was none of my business, but there was something about Robin Steadman that set my teeth on edge. Perhaps it was just that he was a bit too smooth. Whatever my own feelings, it had to be said that he seemed to have developed a much closer relationship with his daughter than his wife had. It was puzzling to see how isolated Phillipa Steadman seemed whenever the family were together.

      Halfway through the day I called Jamie and Phoebe in from the garden for lunch, still hardly able to absorb that they were getting on so well. Even more surprising, Phoebe was first to sit at the table and Jamie actually chose to sit next to her, clearly no longer feeling vulnerable to the threat of wet fingers or flying crockery.

      Emily took a break from her revision to join us at the dinner table and I noticed that Phoebe seemed to be studying my daughter, watching her take bites of her sandwich as closely as someone who might be tested on the subject later. ‘Can I try some of that?’ Phoebe asked eventually as Emily picked up the next half of her sandwich.

      ‘Of course you can,’ I shot back quickly, rushing into the kitchen to prepare her a cheese sandwich, cutting it into triangles so it would appear exactly like Emily’s. Racing back to the table, I planted the food straight in front of her, before she had a chance to change her mind. Emily and Jamie stared between the plate and Phoebe with their mouths open, eager to see what she planned to do with a piece of actual solid food.

      Having learnt the hard way when Jamie was a toddler that being too keen for a child to eat can put them off, I drew Emily and Jamie’s attention away from her, gaily prattling on about what television series we might start to watch next. We had recently caught up with all available episodes of Lost and had so far failed to find an equally absorbing replacement. They both fired suggestions across the table and I offered one or two of my own, all the while watching Phoebe out of the corner of my eye.

      She poked the bread on her plate several times as if suspicious it might be a living organism. Apparently reassured that it wouldn’t grow arms and throttle her she leaned over and took a cautious sniff. Straightening, she pinched the edge of one of the triangles between forefinger and thumb, and plucked off the tiniest piece of bread. Lifting it to her mouth, she tentatively brushed it against her lips and held it there for a long moment, as if in danger of it biting back.

      For goodness’ sake, just eat it, I thought, willing her to take the plunge. She did, rolling the bread over in her mouth with the relish of a child being forced to eat cotton wool. There was a pause during which I held my breath, praying she wouldn’t start retching. She glanced around at us but I averted my gaze, suggesting casually to Emily and Jamie that it might be worth giving Grey’s Anatomy a go.

      Within ten minutes Phoebe had managed to eat two whole triangles, which amounted to one full slice of bread. Emily, Jamie and I exchanged furtive but exhilarated glances, both of them looking every bit as pleased as I was. It seemed such a momentous event that I was tempted to cheer but restrained myself, instead suggesting we make the most of the continuing sunshine by taking a walk to the park.

      Gone was Jamie’s reluctance to join in. He leapt up and asked if he could fetch the scooters from the shed so that he and Phoebe could ride there and back. If ever there was a moment when I wished I had a camera at my fingertips it was then. Phoebe’s face was a picture; she looked so chuffed that my eyes actually filled up. It made me wonder whether she had ever actually had any friends of her own.

      After an uneventful and therefore enjoyable trip to the park, we walked back via our local parade of shops. Phoebe stopped short outside the local charity shop, abandoning her scooter on the pavement and standing frozen to the spot, staring into the window. At first I thought she was studying her reflection and expected her to begin remonstrating at any moment, flinging her arms around manically as she had on most of our other trips.

      By the time Jamie and I had caught up with her she turned to me with a pleading expression. ‘Could I please buy that, Rosie? With my pocket money?’

      That was a pirate’s outfit displayed on a small mannequin in the window. ‘Well, I’m not sure,’ I said, knowing that if we bought second-hand I couldn’t be sure that it was made with fire-retardant material. ‘It’s not new so …’ I went on, but her crestfallen expression stopped me mid-sentence. If Phoebe was my own child I wouldn’t have hesitated but I knew how meticulously the rules had to be followed when caring for Looked After Children.

      ‘Oh, please, Rosie.’ She looked at me so earnestly that I thought, sod it – we were always being told to treat foster children as we would our own so I wasn’t going to turn her down. How funny, I mused, as we went into the shop and the assistant retrieved the pirate dress from display – Phoebe had four bags of unopened presents in her room and yet fixated on an item that cost £2.50. As it turned out, the dress hadn’t even been worn. All СКАЧАТЬ