The Little Book of Flirting. Peta Heskell

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      Flirting isn’t just restricted to interaction with the opposite sex. It’s also useful in social and work situations. Your style of flirting can range from simply social to strongly sexual. Great flirting, when done appropriately and with a friendly go-for-it attitude, is the gateway to more romance, deeper friendships, enhanced professional relationships and a definite feel-good sensation for you and people you flirt with.

      Flirting is feeling great about yourself and resonating this to the world so that the right people are drawn to you – irresistibly!

      The best flirts do it with everyone!

      This book is about how to be the kind of person who can flirt with anyone they choose! My friend Lesley is like that. She ran a business for 25 years, flirting with everyone. To this day she flirts with elderly people, children, babies, men and women. She flirts saucily with men she fancies and kindly with men she doesn’t. She enjoys a joke and she can be really raunchy and very gentle. At the age of 49 she still has men chasing after her and she’s been happily married for 26 years. Women consult her about their relationships and parents allow her to ‘adopt’ their children. There’ll be standing room only at her funeral!

      Becoming a flirt…

      In this little book you will learn how to master the art of flirting. It contains everything you need to know to make yourself completely and utterly irresistible!

      Great flirts love who they are and what they do. This book will help you discover how wonderful you are and encourage you to live your life from this position. It is about meeting yourself, falling in love with yourself and learning to interact with the world from that basis.

      Think of this book as a guide, motivator and instigator of fun as you flirt your way through life.

      Remember though, books don’t jump out and change you overnight while you sleep. They offer you ways of thinking and acting that can help you to change yourself for the better. But you have to choose to do the work to make it happen!

      Do you choose to become a great flirt? Let’s start now!

Are you a bit of a flirt already?

      As a successful flirt you will be able to make things happen for you, not to you. You will make things happen because of what you do, not despite what you do. What do you do now? You may have some patterns of behaviour that don’t serve you and some that do. Let’s look now at your current flirting patterns.

      How do you currently flirt?

      Perhaps you are a bit of a flirt already. Perhaps you flirt but don’t get the results you want. Perhaps you don’t flirt at all. The following questions will help you realize how flirtatious you currently are and what you need to work on:

       You are in a relaxed social situation and realize you are attracted to someone. Do you:

      1 Send out strong sexual signals and if they don’t approach you, approach them?

      2 Flirt with someone else while occasionally looking in their direction?

      3 Hope that they don’t notice you are interested and be certain to look away?

      I was greeting people at the door of a seminar when a colleague arrived on the back of a taxi-bike. The rider came over to ask me more about the seminar. I thought he was gorgeous. After a short chat, I had to go. I handed him my card and started to walk downstairs. Halfway down I turned round and rushed back upstairs. I asked him if he would take me for a ride on his motorcycle. Two years later, we’re still together!

      Sometimes you have to follow your instincts and not worry about the consequences. I didn’t stop to think this guy might refuse me or think I was too pushy – I just went for it!

      Sometimes you have to follow your instincts and just go for it!

       You are in a fairly well populated train carriage. A personable, well-presented person gets into the carriage and strikes up a conversation. Do you:

      1 Say ‘Good evening’ and return to your paper or your work?

      2 Ignore them – after all, they might be a bore or a rapist?

      3 Open out to the possibilities and strike up a conversation?

      Fran was directing a TV documentary about my seminar. On the train home, a man got into her carriage, smiled and said, ‘Hello.’ Normally, Fran would have mumbled an indistinct greeting and got on with her work. This time, she remembered something I’d said about connecting, and she smiled back and made a comment about a topical event. They chatted and discovered they were both in the TV business and he knew her husband. They exchanged telephone numbers and made plans to meet up with their partners. Who knows where this friendship will lead?

      Sometimes it is our willingness to take advantage of unlikely situations that leads us to a wonderful friendship, a new relationship or that great business opportunity.

       You know that someone you have met recently but don’t know too well could connect you to someone who would be very useful to you in your business. Do you:

      1 Ring up that person, ask them how they are, listen to what they say, make them feel good and then say honestly that you know they can help you and that’s why you are calling?

      2 Ring them up about another matter and hope that one thing will lead to another?

      3 Stop yourself from calling because it would seem like using them?

      Sue attended one of my personal development events. She called me up the next day, thanked me for the evening and then told me that she knew that I was an influential person and had a far wider reach in the personal development community than she did. She told me a story that made me laugh and asked if I would publicize her coaching. I attended one of her sessions and I did publicize her because she was good.

      Sue was pro-active, funny and friendly. She had made me feel good without flattery and she was genuine and prepared to put herself on the line because she believed in herself.

      Sometimes you have to be prepared to put yourself on the line to make a useful connection.

      As a result of reading this, I suspect that you may have become more aware of how flirtatious you are. Would you like to initiate more conversations and be able to socialize in any situation? Have there been times in your life when you could have made a great connection, but didn’t? If so, this book is for you.

Begining on the inside, with yourself!

      The secret to great flirting is to begin on the inside, with yourself! The better you know yourself and the more good you feel about yourself, the easier it is for you to flirt successfully and love it. Flirting is not just about the superficial outward displays, it starts with who you are shining through.

      The key to successful flirting is to start out feeling good about yourself so that you can transmit this to others.

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