Dad You Suck: And other things my children tell me. Tim Dowling

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СКАЧАТЬ an hour it becomes apparent that we will not be moving for at least another hour. I ring my wife to ask, almost in a whisper, about the possibility of other flights, if necessary to other airports.

      ‘There’s one at six-thirty to Munich,’ she says. ‘If München is Munich. It is, isn’t it?’

      ‘Well, I’d always thought so,’ I say, but it occurs to me that I once believed that Bayreuth was just an alternative spelling for Beirut. ‘Now I’m not sure.’

      The youngest one suddenly laughs out loud. He still has headphones on, and he is still watching Family Guy. His brother prods him in the shin.

      ‘Do you actually even know what’s going on?’ he says. The youngest looks up.

      ‘Yeah,’ he says. ‘A poltergeist comes and Stewie gets sucked into a portal.’

      The man in front of us tells the Germans that this sort of thing happens once or twice a year. In fact, I discover later, this is the fourth ‘fatality’ on the Stansted line in two months. The full sadness of it struck me only later in the evening, back home nine hours after setting off. Only then did I remember the conductor walking into our silent carriage to ask the trolley man for a coffee for the driver.

      Now I think of it, the term ‘trial and error’ is a bit misleading when applied to fatherhood, because one is rarely in a position to adapt in response to mistakes. You can’t just stop doing things because they keep going wrong; you’re more or less required to carry on. You take your children to a restaurant, and it ends badly. A month later you try again, and it goes badly again. Over the long term you may begin to notice incremental improvements in the outcomes, but this is more to do with your children getting older than anything you’re doing.

      My wife’s book group – of which she is a founder member – meets monthly in various locations, including, occasionally, our kitchen. The last time this happened I was away, so I’m not certain how the children and I are to be accommodated.

      ‘What happens to us?’ I ask while my wife arranges cheeses on a plate.

      ‘Nothing,’ she says. ‘Just stay out of the kitchen, that’s all. And don’t let them shout swearwords on the stairs. Or fight. I don’t want anyone running in covered in blood.’

      When the women of the book club begin to arrive, I assemble all three boys in the sitting room.

      ‘Put your shoes on,’ I say. ‘We’re going out.’ I take them to the Thai restaurant over the road. At my insistence, we order starters none of us has tried before. We chat about school, sport, politics and YouTube videos we’ve seen of people falling off things. The children, to my quiet astonishment, comport themselves with uncharacteristic maturity. They are polite. They are open-minded about some of the stranger dishes. They do not bicker, or complain, or knock over my beer while fighting over a dumpling. No one asks to play with my phone, or storms out leaving the word ‘Arsehole!’ hanging in the air.

      The restaurant, almost empty on our arrival, fills up, mostly with groups of women, some of whom look over and smile. After a while I start to grow self-conscious, losing the drift of the conversation and beginning to see myself in the way I imagine these women see me: as an embattled single father bringing up three boys on his own, beautifully. When I occasionally catch one of their admiring glances, I try to acknowledge it wearing a modest, vaguely embarrassed expression that says, ‘Yes, it has been a struggle, but it’s been worth it. These kids mean everything to me.’

      ‘Why don’t you just shut up?’ the youngest says to the oldest.

      ‘Why don’t you just fuck off?’ the oldest says to the youngest.

      ‘Can we have the bill?’ I say to the passing waiter.

      When we get home, the book club is still in session in the kitchen. We creep into the sitting room and I shut the door quietly behind us.

      ‘It was a good dinner,’ I say softly. ‘We’ve expanded our repertoire to include starters four and seven, and I learned a lot about the many different ways a person can hurt himself skateboarding off a roof.’

      ‘Whatever,’ the youngest says, kicking off his shoes so they hit the window blinds and then diving face first into the sofa. The middle one picks up the TV remote and points it at the screen. As the tail end of Police, Camera, Action! comes blaring into the room, he starts playing keepy-uppy with a dirty tennis ball. The oldest one is already sprawled on the other sofa with his laptop open under his chin like a sun reflector. Seizing the opportunity to check my email, I pull my phone from my pocket and turn my back to the noise.

      At this point the door swings open. I glance up from my phone and see my wife, and behind her a group of rather elegant women in long coats, peering in. My wife gestures with one upturned palm, in the manner of a museum curator.

      ‘Typical,’ she says. ‘Any time of day or night, if you open this door, this is the scene that greets you.’

      I start to say something in protest, but then I see myself as the six smiling women framed in the door see me, and I decide to go with it.

      One fine autumn day I elect to take my children to the grand opening of London’s new mega-mall, because it is half-term and we need an activity, and because the mega-mall happens to be very near our house, which has not heretofore been very near anything. In fact, it is now our closest retail experience, our local forty-three-acre shop, and I want them to be familiar with it so that in future I can ask them to nip out and get me some Louis Vuitton luggage.

      We are worried, however, that we might be underdressed for the occasion. Our shoes are muddy. The middle one is wearing a hoodie, which for all I know might disqualify him from entry. The youngest is sporting a huge cut above his blackened eye, the result of running into a friend while celebrating a goal with his shirt pulled over his head. We ditch the hoodie, change coats, wipe food from each other’s faces.

      As we walk along the road I try to set the mega-mall opening day in some sort of wider historical context, because we should really be going to a museum or something in half-term.

      ‘This entire area was the site of the 1908 Franco-British Exhibition, the centrepiece of which was the dazzling White City,’ I say, lowering my voice as we pass other pedestrians in case my facts are wrong.

      ‘Is that why the Tube station is called White City?’ the middle one asks, pointing.

      ‘Yes,’ I say. ‘That is exactly why. They also held the 1908 Olympics here.’

      ‘Dad,’ the youngest says, ‘remember on Family Guy, Stewie was like—’

      ‘I’m talking. The last remaining exhibition halls were demolished to build the giant mall,’ I say, ‘a temple to capitalism.’ As we pass the new Tube station I see the mayor of London, Boris Johnson, chatting to reporters. ‘Look,’ I say. ‘There is the mayor of London, Boris Johnson.’ The older two crane their necks appreciatively.

      We enter the mega-mall just as Dannii Minogue opens the new branch of Next, and become caught up in the whirling vortex of the crowd trying to get a look at her. We ride escalators while consulting a map we were handed at the door. Eventually we end up on a balcony towering over the atrium. Three storeys below, flashbulbs are popping at the foot of a stage.

      ‘The man now shaking hands with Boris Johnson,’ I say, ‘is Philip Green, the owner of the СКАЧАТЬ