Learn Languages Easily. Methods of self-regulation for successful learning. Andrey Ermoshin
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Название: Learn Languages Easily. Methods of self-regulation for successful learning
Автор: Andrey Ermoshin
Издательство: Издательские решения
Жанр: Языкознание
isbn: 9785449018069
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A plate in the forehead
Datse sees her fear of making a mistake as plates in the upper part of the forehead. She had to “stand on them’ with her attention to make them melt23.
Feeling tense
Another participant of the seminar whose name is Eugenia, confesses: “I do not allow myself to make any mistakes. I don’t speak: I feel embarrassed, I feel tense and lost. I create this stiffness myself as I don’t let myself say anything unless I know it perfectly well.” The importance of the task is much higher! Communication has the highest priority, as well as the resolution of any practical issues; it’s not a competition or exhibition of linguistic achievement.
This conversation sets the beginning of working through the fear of making a mistake24.
Along with stress, traumas can also be possible. I will describe a couple of cases together with the way we worked through them. This will prepare us for further work together.
In the introduction, I mentioned that a conversation with an English teacher killed my interest towards Italian. Here is a short summary of this story.
The rooster is killed
When I was learning Italian and was feeling quite enthusiastic about it, I told one English teacher about it. She started saying that learning English was much more important, necessary, and more promising.
After this conversation, I suddenly felt that my interest towards Italian seemed to have died out. The textbook, which I thought was so nice and lively, lost its magic.
I began my internal observations to find out what had exactly happened because of this conversation. Italian had been developing as an energetic rooster in my stomach; it actively absorbed everything that had to do with this language: words, expressions, intonations, etc. What did I see with my inner vision? The rooster was killed!
I had to take the dagger out of the rooster, bring it back to life, and learn this lesson: language teachers can experience some sort of jealousy; do not tell everyone about your success, do not share too much! Share your achievements only with those who can feel genuinely happy for you! (If there are such people.)
When your skills become advanced, then you can tell everyone!
“No matter how much effort you put into this, you will never speak like a Russian”
A participant of the seminar in Moscow, her name is Svetlana, has been trilingual with Russian, Ukrainian, and Arabic though Russian has never been her primary language. She has been carrying a phrase once said by a teacher whose opinion was very important to Svetlana: “No matter how much effort you put into this, you will never speak like a Russian.”
We confirm the situation.
“Where did that phrase go and what does it look like inside?”
“It’s like a splinter in my heart.”
“What is your plan: will you continue carrying it or have you had enough of it?”
“Of course, I’ve had enough.”
“Then observe what is happening.”
“It has fallen into pieces and come out as bubbles through the top of my head.”
“It looks like it has left you the same way it came in. Quite often people seem surprised that everything negative comes out through the head, the top of it. It’s like a hatch, which opens up, and then everything that got inside by mistake comes out.”
“The wound on my heart is healing.”
“It sometimes happens that closer to the end of the healing process, there’s the sensation that someone touched the wound with a brush, and then everything smoothed.”
Svetlana draws another breath. I ask her:
“Where is the new understanding of the situation? You speak Russian very well, and with every new day, you will speak even better.”
“It’s like a light-coloured cloudlet above me.”
“Isn’t it time this cloudlet came where it belongs, to your suffering heart?”
Svetlana observes how the cloudlet envelops her, gets absorbed by her skin, and then reaches her heart.
Svetlana feels calm. She opens her eyes25.
What do we do to update the state we are in?
Here is a template for such kind of work. In order to work with the discovered unnecessary formations, we use the following questions: “Is there anything that prevents me from speaking the language I need? Where is it? What does it look like?”
If there is anything that seems disturbing, you will find it in a particular place and in the form of a particular object.
Then you decide if you want to keep nurturing it or it is time to stop. If you choose to stop and you do not want to nurture it anymore, then you observe how it dries out to its original state: whatever came from outside will stay, and whatever you added to yourself will be taken back. The rest of the “foreign object’ goes away the same way it came in. You will calm down.
When you calm down, it means that you observe the redistribution of energy on your body. Your arms and legs get warmer and have a pleasant heaviness; your head feels lighter, and the forehead cools down; your chest and stomach feel free, if before that you experienced any heaviness or compression; and they fill in if they used to seem empty. At the end of this process, you make sure that the place where trauma used to be is clean and calm. “The wound’ has healed, everything has smoothed, and there is no “scar’, no “inflammation’ left.
However, you need to be able to distinguish between the two classes of the condition: trace stress due to the lack of competence, which easily melts during observation; and the injury itself, that is: consequences of fright, ridicule, etc. In such cases, one needs to observe how the feeling that has damaged this person in the first place leaves the body.
Another step is looking for the necessary experience in the space around you. The goal of this experience is to help you develop a new attitude to what used to hurt you: it may look like a little cloud above your head of some sort of condensation inside your head, and then it goes in the form of light, fog, or a more concentrated stream to the damaged place.
Remove the splinter and move on
As for the lack of tact or stupidity of other people that often hurt sensitive people, then there is an СКАЧАТЬ
This session took place in Riga on December, 3 2005
This seminar was conducted in Moscow in 2011.
This work took place during the seminar conducted in Moscow on July 21 2012.