Emotional Intelligence Pocketbook. Hasson Gill

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      The problem is, when we experience a ‘negative’ emotion, we often have a tendency to enforce it with negative responses. Take regret, for example. The positive intent of regret is to prompt you to learn from and avoid making a similar mistake in future. Regret is only negative if you become stuck in negative thoughts, self-blame and inaction. But it’s not the emotion that is negative; it’s your thinking and lack of action!

      In Practice

      Your intellect may be confused, but your emotions will never lie to you. – Roger Ebert

      Try to keep in mind that emotions serve a positive purpose. Emotions are your mind and body’s way of communicating with you. They’re trying to get you to take positive, helpful action in response to something that has happened, is happening or could happen.

      • What, do you think, might be the positive purpose of guilt; the feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offence or wrongdoing that you believe you’ve committed?

      • What, do you think, might be the positive purpose of anger; the strong feeling, the sense of injustice, in response to the feeling that you or someone else has been wronged?

      • What, do you think, might be the positive purpose of envy; feeling resentful because someone else has something you don’t?

      • What, do you think, might be the positive purpose of disgust; a strong aversion, a feeling of revulsion, nausea or loathing in something or someone?

      Be aware that when you ignore, suppress or deny an emotion, when you become overwhelmed or paralysed by an emotion, you prevent yourself from receiving and understanding the positive, helpful information the emotion is trying to convey to you.

      UNDERSTANDING HOW EMOTIONS ARE RELATED

      Just because you’ve got the emotional range of a teaspoon doesn’t mean we all have. – Hermione Granger

      How many emotions do you think we have? Fifty? Eighty? More than a hundred? Some people might claim that there are just six basic emotions – joy, surprise, fear, disgust, anger and sadness – and that all other emotions derive from them.

      Of course, there are many, many more emotions besides these six. But are emotions such as envy and jealousy really that different from one another? What about irritation and annoyance – are they the same thing?

      It’s not easy to distinguish one emotion from another; to tell where one emotion ends or another begins. And when, for example, it comes to emotions like happiness and disappointment, we know from experience that emotions have different levels of intensity; that we can feel very happy or a bit happier, extremely disappointed or only slightly disappointed.

      Furthermore, we can also feel more than one emotion at any one time – nervous and excited, sad but relieved – which adds another dimension of complexity to our emotional experience.

      To try and understand emotions more clearly, to understand their separate and related qualities and characteristics, psychologists and researchers have attempted to categorise emotions; to show the differences and the relationships between them.

      In Practice

      There are four basic emotions – mad, sad, glad and scared. And if you touch those emotions then you can grab your audience, your reader. – Larry Winget

      Put ‘W. Gerrod Parrott’s group of emotions’ into a search engine. You’ll see that Parrott suggests there are six basic emotions and that all other emotions stem from these six basic emotions. For example, both guilt and disappointment stem from the basic, primary emotion of sadness. Pride and relief come from the basic emotion of joy.

      Put ‘Robert Plutchik’s wheel of emotions’ into a search engine. You’ll see that Plutchik has created a ‘wheel of emotions’ as a way of categorising emotions and seeing how they are related. The wheel consists of eight basic, primary emotions and eight ‘advanced’ emotions. Each ‘advanced’ emotion is made up of two basic ones; for example, contempt is created from anger and disgust. Optimism is a blend of joy and anticipation.

      Plutchik’s idea is related to a colour wheel; in the same way that primary colours blend to create other colours, primary emotions combine to create a spectrum of human emotions. He suggests that each primary emotion has a polar opposite. For example, surprise is the opposite of anticipation.

      Understand emotions; make links. Does Parrott’s way of categorising emotions give you a clearer understanding of the intent, motivations and behaviour underlying those emotions? Does it help you to better understand emotions such as remorse and regret, by tracing them back to the basic emotion of sadness. Or jealousy and envy back to the basic emotion of anger?

      Does it make sense? Do you agree?

      Looking at Plutchik’s wheel of emotions, does the combination of sadness and surprise suggest disapproval to you? Is love the combination of joy and trust? Do you think fear is the opposite of anger?

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