The End of Love. Eva Illouz
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Название: The End of Love

Автор: Eva Illouz

Издательство: John Wiley & Sons Limited

Жанр: Социология

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СКАЧАТЬ perhaps another type of sociology, which I would tentatively call the study of crisis and uncertainty. The orderliness and predictability of modern institutions have been disrupted for large swaths of the population; routine and bureaucratic structures coexist with a pervasive and nagging sense of uncertainty and insecurity. If we can no longer count on lifelong employment, on the returns of increasingly volatile markets, on the stability of marriage, on geographical stability, then many traditional sociological concepts have served their time. It is high time that we listen to the practitioners of the new culture of unloving, and therefore I conducted interviews with ninety-two people in France, England, Germany, Israel, and the United States from the age of nineteen to the age of seventytwo.62 Their stories form the empirical backbone of the book—and they all bear the traces of what Lauren Berlant calls the “crisis of ordinariness,” that is, the low-key ways in which actors, located in different cultural contexts and socioeconomic positions, struggle with the minute dramas of precariousness and uncertainty,63 with the properties of what I call negative relationships. Negative relationships obviously take different forms in different social classes and different national frameworks, but they contain a few recurring elements: they enact economic and technological features; they do not gel in a stable social form but are valued as ephemeral and transitory; and they are practiced even when that entails loss and pain. Whether these two processes produce pleasure or pain, they constitute, as we will see, unloving, whereby the prefix “un-” expresses both the willful undoing of something established (as in “untying” the knot), and the inability to achieve something (as in “unable”). One form of unloving necessarily precedes loving (e.g., the one-night stand) and another follows it (the divorce). Both cases enable us to understand the conditions of emotions and relationships in the era of radical personal freedom. It is this condition I decipher in this book.

      1 1. George Orwell, “In Front of Your Nose,” The Collected Essays, Journalism and Letters of George Orwell (1946; New York: Harcourt, Brace & World, 1968).

      2 2. For extensive discussion on Plato’s theory of forms, see Russell M. Dancy, Plato’s Introduction of Forms (Cambridge: Cambridge University Press, 2004); Gail Fine, Plato on Knowledge and Forms: Selected Essays (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 2003).

      3 3. This paragraph is taken from my article on unloving, “The Thrill Is Gone: Why Do We Fall Out of Love?” Haaretz, September 7, 2013, https://www.haaretz.com/.premium-why-do-we-fall-out-of-love-1.5329206, accessed February 13, 2018.

      4 4. Émile Durkheim, Suicide: A Study in Sociology, trans. John A. Spaulding and George Simpson (1897; New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997).

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      6 6. Leslie Bell, Hard to Get: Twenty-Something and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom (Berkeley: University of California Press, 2013).

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      9 9. As Beatrice Smedley remarks (personal communication) not all love stories in India (Shakuntala by Kalidasa, fourth–fifth century, or the Kama Sutra) and China (The Carnal Prayer Mat by Li Yu, seventeenth century) were informed by religious values, nor was The Tale of Genji by Murasaki Shikibu (eleventh-century Japan). Similarly, in the West a non-religious romantic tradition coexisted with the one shaped by Christianity: Sappho, Catullus, Ovid, Ronsard, and Petrarch found their sources in classical mythology.

      10 10. Howard R. Bloch, Medieval Misogyny and the Invention of Western Romantic Love (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1992); Karen Lystra, Searching the Heart: Women, Men, and Romantic Love in Nineteenth-century America (New York: Oxford University Press, 1989); Steven Seidman, Romantic Longings: Love in America, 1830–1980 (New York: Routledge, 1991); Irving Singer, The Nature of Love, vol. 3, The Modern World (Chicago: University of Chicago Press, 1989).

      11 11. It was strangely omitted by Max Weber in his monumental study of the different cultural paths taken by the West and the East. See Max Weber, The Religion of China: Confucianism and Taoism, ed. and trans. Hans Gerth (1915; London: MacMillan Publishing Company, 1951).

      12 12. Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, A History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love Conquered Marriage (New York: Viking Press, 2006).

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      14 14. Stephanie Coontz, Marriage, A History: From Obedience to Intimacy, or How Love СКАЧАТЬ