BAD (Begin Again Differently). Claudette Yarbrough

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      Are you thinking about getting a “regular job” now that your dream has ended? Do you want to get a regular job? Can you face getting back into the workforce, interviewing for positions you know are not a good fit for you? Do you think there aren’t any good options for your future? Do you feel like you’ve failed irrevocably, and that there’s little hope for moving on positively?

      Do any of these questions sound familiar to you regarding the situation you are in, or may be in sooner than you think?

      I want you to answer these questions honestly and truthfully (because I would never tell you to ignore your thoughts about your situation and your perceptions about what is happening to you). I want to be clear, though, there really is hope for a brighter future to imagine for yourself—if you are willing to begin again differently, or be BAD, and not give up all hope.

      Your loss may have been significant like mine, when I lost a contract we had for eighteen years, and you may feel utterly hopeless, like I did when I realized I would have to tell eighty-three people to find other employment opportunities.

      However, like I am sharing with you, there is definitely—dare I say there is guaranteed—hope and brightness waiting for you if you decide that you will not succumb to whatever life has thrown your way that has caused your loss to happen.

      There are possibilities that you can experience if you are willing to go on a journey to begin again differently. I have been blessed throughout my life to be conscious of people who proclaim that you can get something for nothing. This book is not about pie-in-the-sky happiness. This book is about the realness of the changes that can happen when you open yourself up to believing and hoping for a better tomorrow. Even if you have to begin believing about hope for hope’s sake, the mere act of believing again can do wonders for you as you embrace the possibilities that can exist if you decide not to give up on your dream.

      There are so many stories in our world today about life after death, success after failure, and hope after despair, but you may be thinking that your loss cannot have a ‘happily ever after’ while you’re going through it. In fact, it seems like our world has us thinking that we’ve lost something, that we’re the only ones missing something, or we’re made to feel that no one has suffered as badly. You may be thinking that what has happened to you is so bad, so ugly, and so unfair that nothing good can possibly come from your loss. I am here to tell you that you are wrong. If you can muster up enough strength to read through this book, with just a glimmer of willingness to read the words on the pages that follow, I believe that you will find the ability to want to begin again differently.

      One story that has half of a happy ending involves my friend, Irma. She and her husband ran the biggest daycare in a border town for almost fifteen years. They had several other profitable businesses, as well. Their weekly revenue was between $50,000 and $60,000. They had what looked like a successful business. However, in the matter of several weeks, after a painful IRS audit found that they had not paid some taxes, the business began a downward spiral. It did not help that at the same time the IRS completed their audit and decided what the company owed the government, the economy dried up the jobs in their area so that people who brought children to the daycare stopped coming because they no longer had jobs to pay for it.

      The other businesses suffered as well, and within a year, Irma and her husband lost everything. Then, the stress of it all caused Irma’s husband to suffer a stress-related heart attack and die. Irma had lost her second husband. As a single mother, she moved to a big city and re-married a wonderful man who died from old age but did not leave her any of his money due to leaving everything to his son from his first marriage.

      To be honest, for a while, Irma lost it. She suffered a mild breakdown and was hospitalized for a while. She retired from her job to have funds from her pension to live on. Her youngest daughter, with a young child of her own, began to help her regain her hope again by providing her with her basic needs so that she could begin to function again. At that time, Irma decided not to give up, but to begin again. She went back to work and began saving her retirement pension and living off of her wages. She got her “hope” back and decided not to succumb to the hurt and pain she felt due to her losses.

      Today, after ten years, Irma has over a quarter of a million dollars in her bank account. She eventually paid off all of the IRS obligations she incurred from the bankruptcy event that killed her husband, and she is now paying for her grandchildren’s college education and is preparing her legacy to live on long after she’s gone. Now in her early seventies, Irma is still active, vibrant, and working because she wants to. I share Irma’s story because she decided to begin again, even though it was hard after the death of her third husband, suffering a minor breakdown, and having to depend on her youngest daughter for assistance.

      Irma is no better than anyone else who has lost and restarted, but she did do something those who give up don’t typically do; she decided she would start over or begin again. In Irma’s case, she suffered several losses: the loss of her business, which led to the loss of her second husband, which led to her moving to a bigger city and marrying again, and then losing her husband, the house, and her sanity for a while. But now, she believes that it is never too late to begin again, which is exactly what she has been doing for ten years. Is she perfect now? No. But she definitely loves life again with her focus on the seven processes detailed in this book.

      It is sometimes easier at the time of your loss—or, in Irma’s case, losses—to want to give up. Sometimes you feel like the forces that are coming against you, causing you to lose are making you give up. However, you still have choices you can make. Even if you don’t think you have choices, you do. Even if you have no more money, you still have choices you can make. Even if you lost everything through bankruptcy, you still have choices you can make. Even if you lost your home, or worse, even if you lost your family or your loved ones because of the loss of your funding or your business, you still have choices you can make.

      Sometimes it will definitely feel like you do not have choices. But this is not true. You always have choices that you can make. All of your options may seem bleak; however, to have a choice of which bleak option to follow means you still have a choice to make.

      I believe that, no matter what, if you can find it somewhere within you to decide not to give in or to give up, you will win. Win your joy back, your happiness back, maybe even your job or business back, but definitely your life back to where you can be better in control of your future and your destiny because you decided not to give up and you made a choice to begin again.

      I am not saying that anything in this book is easy to do. I am saying that you will definitely decide that what is in this book is worth it to do as you begin to realize that you can begin again. Anyone can begin again, even you—especially you, because you were brave enough to pick up this book and begin reading it.

      What will happen to you if you do not finish this book or if you decide that you do not want to begin again? One thing that will definitely happen to you if you decide to succumb to the lost contract, the lost employees, the lost business, or any loss is that you will never know what could have been different for you if you had just tried a do-over. Will you die? Probably not, but something in you may die. Your hope that you had when you started your nonprofit business, or when you got the big contract, or when you hired your team—that may die within you.

      What about regrets? I personally try hard not to have regrets, and I do this by being deliberate about the decisions I make that I have to live with. If you make a decision, whether you finish my book or not, not to begin again, what regrets will you have?

      By now, everyone—and by everyone, I mean probably billions of people—have heard about the big comeback Tiger Woods had at the recent Master’s Golf Tournament, which he won after not winning big for almost eight years. When СКАЧАТЬ