The Value of Longing. Jörg Marxen

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       Joerg Marxen

       The Value of Longing

       Toward a mature perspective

      Lecture given on February 8, 2020 at the symposium "Alexa – still’ meine Sehnsucht" [Alexa – still my longing] held from February 7 – 9, 2020 in Bad Oeynhausen, Germany

      Copyright: © 2020 Joerg Marxen

      Editing: Erik Kinting - www.buchlektorat.net

      Cover and typesetting: Erik Kinting

      Cover photo: © Joerg Marxen

      Translator: Alison Mally – www.mally-fachuebersetzungen.de

      Publisher: tredition GmbH, Halenreie 40-44, 22359 Hamburg

      978-3-347-14839-0 (paperback)

      978-3-347-14840-6 (hardcover)

      978-3-347-14841-3 (eBook)

      ISBNs of the German edition:

      978-3-347-14836-9 (paperback)

      978-3-347-14837-6 (hardcover)

      978-3-347-14838-3 (eBook)

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      The symposium entitled Alexa – still’ meine Sehnsucht [Alexa – still my longing] was organized by Median Klinik am Park Bad Oeynhausen in conjunction with the Weiterbildungskreis Psychosomatische Medizin und Analytische Psychotherapie e. V. and the Psychotherapeutisches Lehrinstitut ZAP GmbH, a state-approved training center for psychological psychotherapists and child and youth psychotherapists.

      Joerg Marxen is a registered psychological psychotherapist and coach (depth psychology, hypnotherapy, value system analysis and corporate development theory).

       Author:

      Joerg Marxen

      Am Neuen Petritore 7

      38100 Braunschweig

      Germany

      [email protected]

       Foreword

      In 2011, the American Psychological Association published an article entitled "Is Longing Only for Germans? A Cross-Cultural Comparison of Sehnsucht in Germany and the United States". The authors (Scheibe, Blanchard-Fields, Wiest & Freund, 2011) emphasize that despite all the differences longing is of importance in both cultures and can have functional and dysfunctional effects in both cultures.

      I have repeatedly witnessed the phenomenon that longing can be an existential blessing for one person and a devastating catastrophe for another. This made me look at the factors that make the difference, that allow us to make beneficial use of phenomena from the field of longing.

      Joerg Marxen

       Table of Contents

      Foreword

      Table of Contents

      The field of longing

      The compass function of longing

      The unattainability of longing

      The struggle for maturity

      The value of longing

      Using the value of longing maturely

      Maturity and respect for what we do not understand

      A surprising patient concern

      Outlook

      Bibliography

      Sources:

      Additional literature:

      Appendix

      Excerpt from the lecture on Counter-transference on October 24, 2001

       The field of longing

      Longing has a function.

      Longing springs from a source.

      Longing has an effect.

      Longing can have a very destructive effect.

      Longing can, however, also have an exceptionally

      constructive effect.

      Longing and how we deal with it are in play as an effect but also as a cause, for example when relationships fall apart or when relationships, our attitude to life, our capacity for pleasure and our performance capability develop more favorably or less favorably. They are in play when a happy couple is expecting a child and then during the pregnancy or after the birth of the child the partner falls in love with another woman, or at least begins a sexual relationship with someone else. Longing can lead us into new situations against, through or even despite great reservations, in which we encounter new people and new challenges and in which we first have to reorient ourselves.

      In the field of religiosity, spirituality and transcendence, too, it is usually very much about longing and how we deal it.

      Longing constantly affects our lives in many areas.

      The German dictionary of the Brothers Grimm (1971) devotes a long paragraph to the phenomenon of longing [German: Sehnsucht] and its facets with numerous statements, one of which is that we can understand longing as being …

      … a high degree of intense and often painful desire for something, particularly if there is no hope of attaining what is desired, or when its attainment is uncertain, still far away.

       Dictionary of the Brothers Grimm (Grimm, J. & Grimm, W., 1971)

      This quote is also used by the Sehnsucht researchers surrounding Paul Baltes, Alexandra Freund and Susanne Scheibe (Scheibe et al., 2007), who start from a developmental perspective of the entire life span and whose definition and characterization I essentially follow.

      They characterize the phenomenon of life longings with the aid of six criteria:

      1. their unrealizability

      2. a sense of incompleteness and imperfection in one’s own life

      3. a tritime focus

      4. the accompanying phenomenon of bittersweet or sweet-bitter feelings

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