Narcissistic Lovers. Cynthia Zayn
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Название: Narcissistic Lovers

Автор: Cynthia Zayn

Издательство: Ingram

Жанр: Секс и семейная психология

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isbn: 9780882823553

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      Table of Contents

       Title Page

       Acknowledgements

       Introduction

       Part One

       Chapter 1 - Are You Involved With a Narcissist?

       Chapter 2 - Seeing the Forest

       Chapter 3 - A Familiar Story

       QUIZ # 1

       QUIZ # 2

       Chapter 4 - The Truth Can Set You Free

       Chapter 5 - Trolling for Supply…

       Chapter 6 - Letter to a Narcissist

       Chapter 7 - Know Thyself…

       Chapter 8 - Female Narcissists…

       Chapter 9 - The Angry State

       Part Two

       Chapter 10 - The Power of Choice

       Chapter 11 - The Reflection is Not Real

       Chapter 12 - Clarity…Understanding… Vision

       Chapter 13 - Handling Narcissistic Parents

       Part Three

       Chapter 14 - Taking Back Control

       Chapter 15 - Gaining Perspective

       Chapter 16 - Troubled N Relationships

       Chapter 17 - N’s and the Internet

       Chapter 18 - Can N’s Recover?

       Bibliography

       Copyright Page

       Acknowledgements

      We would like to thank God for the opportunity to share our thoughts and sincere hopes with people who are going through difficulties in their relationships. Thanks to our families for their patience and understanding as we inundated them with information about NPD and spent time away from them as we worked on this project. We would also like to acknowledge Sam Vaknin as a major influence. His book, Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited, offers profound insight from the perspective of a narcissist. Last but not least, our sincere thanks to the folks at “It’s a Grind” coffee shop in Canton, Georgia for providing the necessary fuel and residence as we worked on final touches of this book.

       Introduction

      The beginning of a toxic relationship can sometimes appear so alluring and promising. The destructive features of the relationship are at first elusive, and seem indefinable. Many people blame themselves in an attempt to resolve the conflict, or may question the reality of their perceptions. In many cases, by the time the “poison” of the relationship is finally detected, emotional damage has already been done, and all that remains is the pain, self-doubt and confusion.

      It can be hard work to recover from such a relationship without feeling permanently injured and disconnected from one’s true “self.” An even greater challenge is to emerge from such a painful experience with increased clarity, personal power and hope. To achieve this level of healing and to move past mere “survival first” requires, very simply, a clear picture of what happened, and the major underlying causes.

      Many victims of injurious and emotionally abusive relationships were unwittingly victimized by someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, an often misunderstood psychiatric condition that is characterized by, among other things, deceit, manipulation and complete and utter self absorption. If you feel you may have been involved with someone with Narcissistic Personality Disorder and you are struggling to find an explanation for what happened to you, know that this very motivation can be the source of your healing. For if you search and discover the true nature of a Narcissistic “relationship” the understanding and clarity you can achieve will be truly liberating.

      Many readers would benefit from going through therapy as they seek to recover and redefine their lives. This can be a very difficult process to face alone, and an objective therapist can help sort out and identify forces such as family dynamics, childhood experiences, and intimacy issues that influence one’s perceptions, feelings and choices. Further, many victims of Narcissists have endured emotional and/or physical abuse, making the impact of the relationship even more damaging, and the need for therapy more certain. This book is not meant to be a substitute for therapy, and the authors are not mental health professionals.

      Since this book was written for victims of Narcissists, an “academic” writing style is avoided. The goal is to lead the reader on a personal journey that is more than a summary of psychological theory, for true healing of any type requires more of the reader than “intellectualizing” the experience. A personal tone is emphasized not only to enhance the book’s readability, but to create a “writer/reader СКАЧАТЬ