Autism and the Extended Family. Raun Melmed, M.D.

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       Table of Contents

Foreword by Eustacia Cutler

CHAPTER 1:Introduction

CHAPTER 2:Welcome to the World of Autism!

CHAPTER 3:How Lives Are Affected after Autism is Diagnosed

       CHAPTER 4:Grandparents

       CHAPTER 5:How are Siblings Impacted by Extended Family Matters?

       CHAPTER 6:Stepfamilies and Other Blended Families

       CHAPTER 7:Uncles and Aunts

       CHAPTER 8:Close Friends

       CHAPTER 9:Cousins

       CHAPTER 10:Surviving and Enjoying Special Events and Holidays

       CHAPTER 11:Conclusion

       APPENDIX: Activities

       Activity A -Who is your extended family?

       Activity B -Conflict resolution for the extended family

       Activity C -Create an Autism Survival Kit

       Activity D -How to communicate well – for step-parents and everyone else

       Activity E -Everyone should practice stress management

       Activity F -Behavior management for extended family members

       Activity G -How to handle rude comments in public and even bullying

       Activity H -Tips for toileting and eating

       Appendix I -Adult and Child Rights

       Resources

Foreword by Eustacia Cutler

      In Chapter 11 of this splendid new family guide to autism, Dr. Raun Melmed and Maria Wheeler allude to the much loved story of the plane that was meant to take us to Italy, but instead lands us in Holland.

      For most of us, Holland is not where the plane lands. Holland is an easy country filled with friendly people who respond sensibly to newcomers.

      No, the plane we’re on takes us spiraling down the Alice in Wonderland Rabbit Hole into an unpredictable world alive with noisy behavior that demands our total attention, only to change as fast as we’ve figured it out.

      Where have we landed and who is this small screaming creature who shudders at our slightest touch and won’t look at us?

      Up until now, we thought all babies liked us and wanted to be with us. We used to say, “A baby needs a mother to know she’s a baby and a mother needs a baby to know she’s a mother.” Not anymore!

      Okay, then what about Dad? Dad likes to fix things, but his baby’s behavior can’t be “fixed” not in the old familiar father-to-son way. When a man can’t handle his own son, what kind of a man is he?

      “Few conditions are as puzzling and mysterious as autism,” Melmed and Wheeler write.

      Indeed yes, welcome to the Rabbit Hole World where autism scrambles all our old notions about raising children.

      Autism takes over and almost at once it’s hard for parents to hang onto who it is we thought we were. Along with the daily tasks of caretaking, which can be formidable, our individual sense of self gets shaky. And with it, how we think we’re perceived by others.

      At this point, we also find we’re struggling to hang onto old customs and shared neighborhood values in a rapidly evolving culture that puts a higher value on personal identity and individual achievement.

      In truth, the old customs and values are pretty much outmoded for everyone. And in their places, we have an Internet gadget that lures us into a virtual world of instant answers. All it takes is a finger sweeping gesture on the shiny face of a new cell phone.

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