The Most In Depth Self Discovery Book – Ever. Nishant Baxi
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Название: The Most In Depth Self Discovery Book – Ever
Автор: Nishant Baxi
Издательство: Издательские решения
Жанр: Общая психология
isbn: 9785449854353
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Synopsis
The “Martin Luther’ of today, reformers are typically people who seek to change things and build upon the imperfections to make things more perfect.
This chapter talks about:
– What a reformer is all about
– Why are reformers good to have around
– What is most difficult about reformers
– Dealing with them and bringing out the best
– Who they get along with
– Who they don’t along with
Championing the cause of change, whether for the better or worse is part and parcel of a reformer – learn to love them, accept them for who they are and bring the best out of them!
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You can always count on them to lend a helping hand. These people live to serve and they enjoy doing it in the process!
This chapter talks about:
– What a helper is all about
– Why are helper good to have around
– What is most difficult about helpers
– Dealing with them and bringing out the best
– Who they get along with
– Who they don’t along with
Living in service and contribution to others is the core structure of a helper – learn to accept them, understand them for who they are and bring the best out of them!
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The First Two
The reformers are the perfectionists of self, home and society. Their constant desire is to improve things, make things better because things always never seem good enough to them. Their attention to detail is impeccable – often finding fault and fixing even the smallest things.
Highly principled and never compromising, they live by the book and follow all the rules – they even expect others to do so as well. They also tend to be ambitious and to a point, like a workaholic.
These people are truly serious people whose pursuit for perfection is often a blessing and a vice to people around them.
The Good
The reformer’s holy idea of perfection is omnipresent. Their greatest desire is to create goodness, maintain impeccable integrity in their dealings and to balance the chaos around them.
They are always the first to take the right action, standing up for what they believe in and acting upon it when others are meandering and compromising or lacking in courage, you can always count on a reformer to step up first and do what needs to be done.
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They are also the best people when it comes to fixing things. You don’t have to do many things around the house because their delight is in fixing things, moving furniture, adding value and creating something different or better.
The Bad
Living with these people is like a personal hell. You don’t need to die to experience hell – all you need to do is to marry one or live in the same house with them as they constantly expect you to abide by the (or their) rules.
They also have an ultra strong tendency to lean towards hypocrisy because no one is perfect even if they set the standards. Hypercriticism makes being around them unbearable at times because they will always find fault with others and fix them.
Their most commonly displayed emotion is one of anger because nothing around them seems good enough to them – constantly resenting imperfection in things, circumstances or others.
How To Deal With Them
Because of their holy idea of perfection, their basic fear and tendency is to fall into sin/evil and become corrupt due to their own natural greed.
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– self-preserving reformer must never be questioned about their personal reformative motives as they tend to keep to themselves about their grand plans for transforming the world. They do things quietly so the best way to deal with them is to acknowledge their efforts in little ways (they seldom show contentment or satisfaction)
A sexual reformer is one that needs constant attention to their plans. You have to be patient as you listen to them because they want to change the world so badly but they got no one to share them with. They tend to be lonely when no one acknowledges their grand plans.
A social reformer is one who often winds up like politicians and social activists. You have to put them with the right crowd for the wrong crowd will only reinforce their hypocrisy and turn the social reformer into a cult leader.
They work very well with enthusiasts (type 7) who are often sold and excited about their plans for reformation and they hate being around individualists (type 4) who are self indulgent, often depressed and doesn’t get anything done.
Helpers live to serve. As long as they feel that they are in contribution to others, they feel they are worthy. A being of selflessness, they believe that giving to others is their highest calling as they feel that love is the most important emotion in the world.
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These are the warmest, most helpful people around who will never forget your birthday (or feel really guilty when they do so…) and will go the extra mile to help one in need.
An extrovert in nature, they work hard to relate and show love to all their friends and family. They live for appreciation and often falls into the trap of tending to the needs of others at the neglect of their own which often causes a problem.
The Good
Helpers love the unbounded feeling of freedom which includes freedom of expressive their love to the world. An expressive being on unconditional love, they long to give and give and give until they can give no more.
Helpers are highly altruistic – you can always count on them to sacrifice themselves for the good of others, often at their own expense.
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