Anger Management For Dummies. W. Doyle Gentry

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      Anger Management For Dummies®, 2nd Edition

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      Library of Congress Control Number: 2015938261

      ISBN 978-1-119-03000-3 (pbk); ISBN 978-1-119-03002-7 (ebk); ISBN 978-1-119-03003-4 (ebk)

      Introduction

      Anger is part of life – no less than memory, happiness, and compassion. Anger says more about you – your temperament, how you view the world, how balanced your life is, and how easily you forgive others – than it does about other people. You don’t have to be a victim of your own anger; you can actually choose how you respond when the world doesn’t treat you the way you want it to.

      In fact, you have just as much choice about how you express your anger as you do about what color shirt you wear, what you eat for breakfast, or what time you go jogging this afternoon. Although it often feels like you don’t have a choice about feeling angry, you do. You also have a choice about how much of yesterday’s anger you carry into the future and how much anger you’re likely to experience tomorrow.

      No one is exempt from problematic anger. Anger is a very democratic emotion; it causes problems for men and women, kids and the elderly, rich and poor, educated and uneducated, people of all colors and ethnic backgrounds, believers and nonbelievers. Tens of millions of human beings needlessly suffer from excessive anger – anger that literally poisons your life – each and every day of their lives.

      Anger isn’t something that can or should be cured. But you have to manage it well – at home, at work, and in your most intimate relationships – if you want to benefit from it. Anger Management For Dummies, 2nd Edition, tells you how to manage your anger by focusing on the positive, how to get a good night’s sleep, how to change your perspective on life, why carefully controlled expression of anger is better for you than venting, how to transform conflicts into challenges, and much more. Anger management has moved far beyond the simplistic (albeit well-intentioned) advice of years past to count to ten or take a couple of deep breaths every time you get angry, and that’s good news!

      About This Book

      How do you know when you have too much anger? Do you determine that for yourself, or do you let other people make that call? If you’re not physically aggressive – physically hurting other people or poking holes in walls – does that mean you’re not angry? Does it really help to vent, to get things off your chest, or are you better off keeping your mouth shut to keep the peace? Can angry people really change, or do they have to go through life suffering because that’s just the way they are? And what should you do if you’re on the wrong end of someone else’s anger? These are all important questions that Anger Management For Dummies, 2nd Edition, answers for you.

      When we wrote this book, we had four basic goals in mind:

      You may want to focus on the area in which you’re having the most trouble controlling your temper – at work, for example. Or you may want to head straight for a chapter on jump-starting anger management. We’re not even going to suggest that you read the whole book – that’s up to you. Be like our Golden Doodle and go where your nose (or in this case, your eyes!) lead you. You’ll get where you need to be.

       Note: Sidebars in this book contain interesting information, but they aren’t essential reading. If you’re someone who likes to cut to the chase, go ahead and skip the sidebars.

      Foolish Assumptions

      We made a few assumptions about you when we wrote this book: