The Leader Phrase Book: 3000+ Powerful Phrases That Put You In Command. Alain Patrick

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      Acknowledgments

      The most special thanks belong to my wife, Zaina, for her selfless love, her support, and her company during the preparation of this unique text.

      Thank you also to my little daughter, Michèle, with whom I have shared so many special moments. Michèle, you are drop-dead gorgeous and you rock my world! You initiated me into fatherhood and you are the best thing that has ever happened to me.

      I would like to thank Tom Carroll and Michelle Lara, who were always on call when I needed them. I am grateful for their guidance.

      A very big acknowledgement goes to my developmental editor, Kirsten Dalley, for making the editing phase of this book so enjoyable, and for her tireless efforts on this project’s behalf.

      I would like to thank Lina and Bassam, both of whom have helped me get to this point.

      No words should be wasted, and thanks to you, dear readers, hopefully mine have not been. I want to acknowledge you here, even if I don’t know any of you by name.

      Preface

      Being thrust into an unpredictable situation can be extremely difficult, and this is doubly true when you are a leader. Regardless of whether you are an executive, a manager, a coach, a lawyer, a doctor, a politician, a salesperson, a diplomat, a den mother, or the head of a nation, you are expected to be able to take charge, influence the situation, settle the score, and make things better. This isn’t always easy, and it can be especially stressful if you are fumbling for words and/or lacking in nuance in your communications. The fact that you reached for this book means that you probably aren’t satisfied with the status quo. You know you can do better, but you need the magic phrases to help get you there. And because you are busy, you need a quick and easy guide to help you shine, both inside and outside of the office.

      This book enumerates specific responses that have helped leaders and decision-makers like you shine. There is no other book out there like it. My goal in writing this book was to share these talking points so that you can develop a trustworthy, convincing leadership presence in any situation that life throws at you. In the past, rising executives used to spend time at seminars and conferences to gain the knowledge they needed to advance in their fields. The pace of business today has rendered this strategy largely out of date. The higher you move up the chain of command, the more readily you will need to be able to summon powerful and effective words and phrases – to motivate, to inspire, to command. Ideally they should become second nature, a part of your everyday routine. To help you do that, this book is organized into seven easy-to-digest sections, plus one bonus section at the end.

      The fact is no matter how successful you are, chances are your speaking (and listening) skills could use some polishing and finetuning. This invaluable tool will enhance your command of the English language and allow your confidence and leadership skills to shine through. I can promise a rewarding experience, both personally and professionally, as you learn to speak boldly, persuasively, and, perhaps most of all, appropriately in any situation.

      Let our journey to powerful communications begin!

      How to Use This Book

      This book was designed with flexibility in mind. You can read it all the way through to get a general overview of the topic, or you can work on one particular situation or aspect of communication that you find the most challenging or relevant. For example, you may feel very comfortable addressing the public in challenging times, but not as relaxed handling conflicts with others. Use the Contents and the Index to help you find the area that is most applicable to your situation.

      Read all the sample phrases and familiarize yourself with the ones that seem the most natural or comfortable for you. Then, practice them until they flow naturally from your mouth. When the time comes, you’ll have no trouble summoning them and using them with confidence and aplomb. If you like, you can also add your own catch phrases in the margins; after all, everyone says things slightly differently. Remember that meaning is both expressed in and influenced by tone, body language, and timing (context). Thus, a humorous phrase that would be effective and appropriate in one setting could be construed as hostile and inappropriate in another, depending on how it is said, to whom you are speaking, and so on. So even though these phrases are “ready-to-use” in a certain sense, it is not a one-size-fits-all scenario. Use good judgment and let context be your guide. This is particularly important when you are considering using humor as a rhetorical device. Humor can sometimes come across as flip or dismissive, and not everyone will “get” your style. As always, nuance is required.

      The visual accompanying each situation will help you anchor each “order of magnitude” in your mind, which will serve as a valuable mnemonic device down the road. For example, in the sample on page 17, the continuum indicator goes from Conciliatory to Argumentative. All of the phrases are sorted incrementally in terms of this scale. If you want to build bridges and smooth things over, learn and use the phrases toward the top. If you want to eliminate or ignore the niceties and cut to the chase, use the phrases toward the bottom.

      Finally, I thought it important to note that I am not just working within the parameters of what is considered proper usage; thus, the reader will find colloquialisms and some slang. This is the English language as many people understand and use it in America. Obviously, the vagaries of expression will be much different in, say, Canada or Australia, or even in different parts of the States. Ultimately, our language, like all others, is a living thing. The field of linguistics is therefore in constant flux, with new words and idiomatic phrases continually being created, fine-tuned, modified, and, in some cases, eventually discarded. Therefore I’m prepared for the fact that the material in this book will need updating from time to time, as the way we express ourselves inevitably evolves. Please visit my Website, www.patrickalain.com, for the most up-to-date information to add to your linguistic arsenal. I also welcome your comments and criticisms of this work to help me in that process.

      When Someone Is Picking a Fight

      CONCILIATORY

      ARGUMENTATIVE

      PART СКАЧАТЬ