Leading Wisely. Manfred F. R. Kets de Vries

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      In other words, the candidate's foolishness must be unique and sensational. In fact, if the Darwin Awards does prove anything at all, it is that even presumably intelligent people can remove themselves from the gene pool in apparently ridiculous ways.

      I remember how I could well have received an honorable citation for the Darwin Awards while canoeing with my wife and two children on the Concord River in Massachusetts. Due to the fast-melting snow, the river had completely flooded its banks. Large parts of what used to be land were now inundated. While happily paddling between the many trees that were now standing in the water, we came across a large, low hanging branch that was blocking our passage. Showing no judgement at all, I told everyone in the canoe to lean to one side to be able to pass under that branch, with the obvious result that the canoe keeled over and everyone suddenly spilled into the water. It was an amazingly stupid suggestion on my part.

Soaking wet, I fished the children out of the water and, for reasons of safety, put them on this infamous branch. Together with my wife – as we were able to stand in the overflowed river – we tilted the canoe to pour out the water. Subsequently, the two of us, completely soaked, paddled back to the shore like mad. When we got into our car, we put on maximum heat and drove home to Cambridge as fast as possible. We were lucky that we did not drown or catch pneumonia, but in future canoeing expeditions, I kept William Blake's admonition in mind: ‘A fool sees not the same tree that a wise man sees.’ I had learned something the hard way. I had learned from experience. Never was such an accident going to happen to me again. In the future, I would have better judgement. In future actions, I would try to be wiser.

Beyond book learning

      Even though I wrote this book only recently, in more than one way, these musings on wisdom in the context of leadership have been in the works for a very long time. In fact, it is fair to say that this book reflects the ruminations of my own struggles with foolishness, all the while trying to acquire a touch of wisdom. Although book learning has always been important to me, knowledge alone never seemed to be enough in dealing with many of the questions that I faced in my daily work as a professor, psychoanalyst, consultant and executive coach. Although I always thought that to acquire knowledge, studying does not hurt, to acquire wisdom, clearly something more was needed. Making efforts to appear knowledgeable did not seem to be good enough. Among other things, I realized that I needed to learn how to observe. If I wanted to act wisely, I needed to really make sense of what was going on around me. Fortunately, in that respect, my long psychoanalytic training turned out to be very useful.

Apart from needing to become more proficient in seeing things, much of what I have learned in life has also come to pass through the questioning of my students. These demanding interchanges – because, far too often, it had to do with questions to which there were no easy answers – were a good lesson in humility. Again and again, these discussions reminded me of my ignorance – it showed how little I really did know. In hindsight, I realized that I became even more aware of my limitations in sense making when I designed a program for C-suite executives at INSEAD, where I have been teaching for a very long time. Working with cohorts of C-suite executives from all over the globe proved to be even more of a challenge, compared to working with the much younger MBA students. Very often, the latter tended to be more gullible, while in many instances, the older executives would present me with extremely complex problems for which I had no easy answers.

      For pedagogical reasons, most business schools use case studies. My approach has not been very different from that of the Harvard Business School – the epicenter of case studies – which is one of my alma maters. During a lifetime influenced by their pedagogical approach, I must have written over a hundred of these case studies. Frankly speaking, case studies have always been an excellent way to create the illusion of decision-making omnipotence – to provide students with the fantasy that they could tackle any difficult problem. Certainly, I was no exception, having once had similar illusions. After all, I had also at one time done an MBA. However, in this particular seminar, specifically designed for leaders of organizations, my approach became somewhat different. In this instance, I decided to take advantage of the fact that the interesting case studies were sitting right in my class. I came to realize that using my participants as prospective study subjects allowed me and others in the class to engage in a more in-depth way of sense making, compared to the traditional case study approach.

I should add that most case studies about senior executives are of a somewhat hagiographic nature, something I am very aware of, given my own case writing history. Why this is so, is that the protagonists in these case studies generally have ‘the final cut’, enabling them to take out of the case any information they do not fancy. Unfortunately, by doing so, the ‘nerve is often taken out of the material’. In addition, to add to this ‘cleansing process’, I should mention the case writer's tendency towards self-censorship, his or her not wanting to include material that may seem to be too controversial, exactly because of the existence of this right of final cut. Furthermore, if truth be told, based on my own experience, it is rather rare for executives to truly open up in these case studies – to talk frankly about what is really troubling them. Getting them to go deep enough to tell a more complete story about the challenges they are facing in their lives is always an uphill struggle. After all, it is so much safer to keep the conversation at a rather superficial level.

In the seminars I designed, however, hagiography was not something that had a long life span. As the objective of the program is to help participants develop deeper insights about themselves – to find ways to navigate through life's challenging situations – staying merely on the surface is not really an option. It would be difficult to keep the discussions going by remaining at a superficial level. As a matter of fact, it would be a real waste of time. Yet, most participants tended to open up, as their defenses wore down. Gradually, they would pay more heed to the statement ‘no interpretation without association’. They would come to realize that if they kept the discussion merely at a superficial level, they would not get much out of such a seminar. To go beyond superficialities was in their best interest. Of course, what facilitated the process of having the participants really open up was that their colleague-participants were becoming increasingly effective in identifying what was happening beneath the surface. As time went by, what would come to the surface were the real issues that the person ‘in the hot seat’ was trying to deal with.

      During these sessions, many insightful questions, reflections and insights would come to the fore. Although there is nothing bad about learning from one's own experience, learning from the experience of others can be of equal merit. Looking back, having facilitated these kinds of seminars for a very long time, I can only say that it has been a great learning adventure. Much wisdom was always present during these sessions.

      More than a decade ago, encouraged by what I learned from my students during these seminars, I wrote a book with the title, Sex, Money, Happiness, and Death: Musings from the Underground, where I reflected on the insights provided to me by my participants. Quite recently, as the COVID-19 pandemic has offered me much more time for reflection, this particular book has been followed by five others: Journeys into Coronavirus Land: Lessons from a Pandemic; The CEO Whisperer: Meditations on Leadership, Life and Change; Quo Vadis?: The Existential Challenges of Leaders; Leadership Unhinged: Essays on the Ugly, the Bad and the Weird and Dancing on Quicksand: The Daily Perils of Executive Life. Looking back, one important issue that runs like a red thread through these three books is how to make wise decisions.

      A ‘clinical’ orientation

      The importance of wisdom as a guiding principle led me to reflect on the kind of conceptual schemes that I have been using in trying to make sense of the stories my participants would tell me. This pertains to the question of what kind of lenses I apply to understand the deeper СКАЧАТЬ